Why M I N D S E T matters less than your tolerance for humility:
My work as a therapist combined with my personal lived experiences have shown me time and time again that:
When E G O grows too powerful ( often from having high levels of something like beauty, money, power, stature ) it can flick a switch for an internal dialogue of
“I AM BETTER than them BECAUSE I have success. “
In our human experience we all carry an element of
*Not belonging
*Lack of self worth
This is NORMAL. And human.
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So when we experience the power of having ‘success’ in an area of our lives, like marrying well, having $ or beauty or intelligence for example, we can use it to unconsciously OVER INFLATE our not-enoughness.
We do this by closing down our humility and puffing up our falsely inflated self worth. This can make us feel empowered in the moment. But it fades.
So at times in life, you may get caught up in your own inner dialogue about how great you are because of this or that. I know I can.
If you get stuck in this program of ‘being the best’ which is a very common PERFORMANCE BASED PROGRAM run by constantly comparing yourself to others, you can disconnect to humility.
And humility is the gateway to growth, to learning something new and to embracing bold adventures.
Without it, you can get stuck hodling onto what was once successful for you, but over time, diminishes because the one rule in life is that things never stay the same. Or you change in connection to that one thing and what once gave you a kick of feel good, eventually fades away. It’s meant to. For we are here to explore and to start new things, not get stuck or static.
And without humility in play, you can’t let go, and grab onto something new, and risk losing that thing that you have identified your self worth with.
But time has a funny way of helping you climb a new mountain to a new horizon. To feel a new brightness on your skin.
Hodling with humility is the way.
