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"Watch how a relationship changes the moment one person starts trying to control the other. It does not matter how the control is dressed up, as concern, as guidance, as knowing what is best. The instant one person needs to manage the other’s choices, feelings, or behavior, something essential has already left the room. What remains might look like love from the outside, but it has quietly become a transaction of power.
Jung is describing something sharper than a moral lesson here. He is naming a psychological law. Love, by its nature, requires the other person to remain free, genuinely free to leave, to disagree, to be fully themselves even when that is inconvenient. The will to power cannot tolerate that kind of freedom, because power needs an object to act upon, something to shape, direct, or possess. The two states are structurally incompatible, not because one is virtuous and the other sinful, but because they are built from opposite relationships to the other person’s autonomy.
This is why Jung calls them shadows of each other. Where you find one in true form, the other has receded. And it explains why so many relationships that claim to be about love are, underneath, elaborate negotiations for control, and why real love so often requires the harder work of releasing the grip rather than tightening it." #Love #Control
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Art: John William Waterhouse
