This may be one of the best passages I've ever read:
"Happiness never comes from outside of us.
He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her. But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.
If you take your happiness and put it in someone's hands, sooner or later, she is going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, she can always take it away.
Then if happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your happiness.
Your whole life is nothing but a dream. You live in a fantasy where everything you know about yourself is only true for you. Your truth is not the truth for anyone else, and that includes your own children or your own parents.
Every human being has a personal dream of life, and that dream is completely different from anyone else's dream.
In a relationship, we can pretend to be the same, to think the same, to feel the same, to dream the same, but there is no way that can happen. There are two dreamers with two dreams. Every dreamer is going to dream in his own way. That is why we need to accept the differences that exist between two dreamers; we need to respect each other's dream.
Every relationship is between two persons and no more than two.
According to the way the two people dream, they create the direction of that dream we call relationship.
Every relationship becomes a living being made by two dreamers.
Just as your body is made by cells, your dreams are made by emotions. There are two main sources of these emotions: One is fear, and all the emotions that come from fear; the other is love, and all the emotions that come from love. We experience both emotions, but the one that predominates in everyday people is fear.
The Track of Love & The Track of Fear
Love has no obligations. Fear is full of obligations.
Love has no expectations. Fear is full of expectations.
Love is based on respect. Fear doesn't respect anything, including itself.
Love is ruthless, it doesn't feel sorry for anyone but it does have compassion. Fear is full of pity; it feels sorry for everyone.
Love is completely responsible. Fear avoids responsibility.
Love is always kind. Fear is always unkind.
Anger is nothing but fear with a mask. Sadness is fear with a mask. Jealousy is fear with a mask. With all these emotions that come from fear and create suffering, we can only pretend to be kind. We are not kind because we don't feel good, we are not happy.
If you are in the track of love, you have no obligations, no expectations. You don't feel sorry for yourself or for your partner. Everything is going well for you, and that is why that smile is always on your face.
Love is generous. Fear is selfish; it is only about me.
Love is unconditional. Fear is full of conditions.
Most people live their entire lives in the track of fear.
In every relationship there are two halves of that relationship. One half is you, and the other half is your son, your daughter, your father, your mother, your friends, your partner. Of those halves, you are only responsible for your half; you are not responsible for the other half.
We try to be responsible for the other half, and that is why relationships in hell are based on fear, drama, and the war of control.
If we are in the war of control, it is because we have no respect. The truth is we don't love. It is selfishness, not love; it is just to have little doses that make us feel good.
With the other half we can share, we can enjoy, we can create the most wonderful dream together. But the other half always has its own dream, its own will, and we can never control that dream no matter how hard we try. Then we have a choice: We can create a conflict and a war of control, or we can become a playmate and a team player. Playmates and teammates play together, but not against each other.
In a relationship, as in a game, it's not about winning or losing. You are playing because you want to have fun.
In the track of love, you are giving more than you are taking.
Selfishness, control, and fear will break almost any relationship. Generosity, freedom, and love will create the most beautiful relationship: an ongoing romance.
To master a relationship is all about you.
If we respect the other half, there is always going to be peace in that relationship.
The quality of your communication depends upon the choices you make in each moment, whether you tune your emotional body to love or to fear. If you catch yourself in the track of fear, just by having that awareness, you can shift your attention into the track of love. Just by seeing where you are, just by changing your attention, everything around you will change.
Finally, if you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of love coming out of you, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltecs, the Mastery of Love.
Love is not about concepts; love is about action. Love in action can only produce happiness. Fear in action can only produce suffering.
The only way to master love is to practice love.
Your reactions are the key to having a wonderful life. If you can learn to control your own reactions, then you can change your routines, and you can change your life.
Your life is the manifestation of your personal dream. If you can transform the program of your personal dream, you can become a dream master. A dream master creates a masterpiece of life.
You didn't come here with a great mission to save the world, to change society, but surely you come with a big mission, an important mission. The real mission you have in life is to make yourself happy, and in order to be happy, you have to look at what you believe, the way you judge yourself, the way you victimize yourself.
We need to give the body freedom from the tyrant that is the mind.
These are the needs of the body; these are the needs of the mind.
You find out that what you are is a force--a force that makes it possible for your body to live, a force that makes it possible for your whole mind to dream.
What you really are is that force that is Life.
All of us are hunters, and all of us are prey.
What is it that we hunt? We hunt to fulfill our needs.
Humans hunt for love. We feel that we need that love because we believe we don't have love, because we don't love ourselves. We hunt for love in other humans just like us, expecting to get love from them when these humans are in the same condition as we are. They don't love themselves either, so how much love can we get from them?
We merely create a bigger need that isn't real; we keep hunting and hunting, but in the wrong place, because other humans don't have the love we need.
When Artemis became aware of her fall, she went back to herself, because everything she needed was inside herself.
It is the same for all of us, because all of us are like Artemis after she fell and before her redemption. We are hunting for love. We are hunting for justice and happiness. We are hunting for God, but God is inside of us.
The hunting of the magical deer teaches you that you have to hunt inside yourself.
If you remember the story of Artemis, you will always find the love inside you.
To hunt inside yourself, you start by hunting every reaction you have. You are going to change one routine at a time. It is a war for freedom from the Dream that controls your life. It is a war between you and the predator with the Truth in the middle.
You are what you believe you are.
You can only perceive the beauty that lives outside you when you feel the beauty that lives inside you.
When you make it your goal to create the perfect relationship between you and your body, you are learning to have a perfect relationship with anyone you are with, including your mother, your friends, your lover, your children, your dog.
When you have the perfect relationship between you and your body, in that moment your half of any relationship outside you is completely fulfilled. You no longer depend upon the success of a relationship from the outside.
God is everywhere. Life is everywhere.
If you have the eyes of love, you just see love wherever you go.
Inside every human is the Promised Land that Moses promised his people. That Promised Land is in the realm of the human mind, but only the mind that is fertile for Love, because that is where God lives. If you see the ordinary human mind, it is also fertile land, but for the Parasite that grows the seeds of envy, anger, jealousy, and fear.
You can have a relationship that fulfills your dream of Heaven; you can create a Paradise, but you have to begin with you. Begin with complete acceptance of your body. Hunt the Parasite, and make it surrender. Then the mind will love your body and will no longer sabotage your love. It's up to you; it's not up to anyone else.
The awakening is when you have the awareness that you are Life. When you are aware that you are the force of Life, anything is possible.
You are alive because of the power of God, which is the power of Life. You are the force that is Life, but because you are able to think at the level of the mind, you forget what you really are.
When you love with no conditions, you the human, and you the God, align with the Spirit of Life moving through you. Your life becomes the expression of the beauty of the Spirit. Life is nothing but a dream, and if you create your life with Love, your dream becomes a masterpiece of art."
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