This may be unpopular amongst certain groups but my 3 year old has chores. 4 kids in total and they all pull their weight. I never ask my kid what they want. I give them what they need. Disobedience is not tolerated and we live in a loving and thriving household.
Revolting against tyranny without sacrificing my role of husband and father is bitcoin, supporting open source projects, and advocating for privacy. In the US if that fails we have our guns.