🤔 Who are they texting? 🤔 Who is this friend of the opposite sex they have? 🤔 What about that one at work who they seem to be getting a little too friendly with? 🤔 Is their behavior crossing the line into "technically" cheating? Am I crazy for being worried about it? Maybe it's "micro-cheating". 💝Monogamy sells us a story that it is valuable because it quells the anxiety that our partner may leave. But all it does is push that anxiety to another place. ⏩Instead of worrying about how you compare to their other partners or options they're interacting with, you worry about whether they're cheating 🚨And if you ask them? Your relationship structure incentivizes them to lie about it, which gives you even more good reason to worry. Instead of an honest answer, which they could give in a polyamorous context, they now may act weird even if nothing weird is going on simply because they worry you're going to interpret it wrong. 🎯In polyamory, you worry your partner may leave you for a better option. In monogamy, you worry your partner may leave you for a better option and lie to you the entire time about it before they actually do. It's clear to me which of those is worse. 😎Your anxieties and insecurities are the problem, not the relationship structure. Choosing monogamy over polyamory to solve your anxieties is no more effective than insisting you can go through your partner's phone, it gives you a very temporary feeling of control but ultimately will likely only end up fueling your anxieties in the long run and doesn't solve the root issue. A partner who knows their phone gets looked through likely isn't going to let themselves get caught cheating this way, but what is likely to happen is for you to see a text your anxiety can latch onto and spiral with. 😘 Real security comes from recognizing and fighting your own anxieties and choosing partners who demonstrate security and commitment on a regular basis. It comes from being the best partner you can be so that your partner never wants to leave. People who put energy there instead of into anxiety have much happier relationships and reduce the chance of cheating in the first place. 🔐 Security also comes from acknowledging that most relationships are temporary, so we should enjoy them while we have them, and that some day we probably, statistically, will be replaced. Or at the very least, even if we stay together, the person we know now will not exist in ten years because they will have changed, loss is inevitable. #relationships #monogamy #polyamory #dating #anxiety

Interested to hear from people who have gone all in on the proton stack vs Google for business. Particularly interested in how sheets functionality and email deliverability compare? #proton #privacy #google #asknostr

Are there any decent LLMs for coding that can be run entirely local on a consumer grade GPU? #asknostr #vibecoding

I feel conflicted about voting/donating strategy in my area (US) and would appreciate some outside perspective. One party here is absolutely dominant, regularly winning with 70%+ of the vote and one or nobody running against them. They occasionally have completive primaries. I am currently registered with this party so I can vote in their primaries since the primaries essentially determine the outcome of general elections. I don't like the other big party here either. They don't have competitive primaries at all, and whoever wins the primary has no chance of winning in the generals. There is a third party I like a lot more, but has the same problems to an even greater degree. I feel most aligned with this party, both of the two major parties feel pretty equally aligned/misaligned with this party. I would register with this third party, but doing so would prevent me from voting in the primary for the dominant party. I have no desire to donate to the main political party or the second, but donating to the third feels like pissing in the wind. I could see donating to primary candidates or maybe it makes more sense just to donate to causes/PACs around specific issues instead of candidates. Which primary would you vote to participate in? How would you vote in the generals and how would you decide who to donate to? Give me your perspective #asknostr

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One great feature of nostr is being able to see an interesting post and boost it only to then click over to that persons profile and find out they are an absolutely unhinged lunatic. You wonder how you ever agreed with anything they ever said. No other platform makes you question your sanity quite like this one. Is this a good thing? I have no idea and even if I did, I'd doubt if that idea was correct. Have you experienced this? What do you think? #asknostr

2026 is the year of #Bitcoin merchant adoption. My city's merchant map on BTC map has gone from zero to doubling in density every month or so, we have three separate hairdressers that take BTC now. And unlike last time BTC got a bunch of merchant adoption, we have lightning now, so it's not going to suddenly stop because of high fees or long payment delays. Future is now. Big love to BTC Maps and square for pushing to make this so seamless for merchants.

Best ways to find online merchants that take #Bitcoin and search their inventory? Spendabit.co works but doesn't seem to have much. What do you use? #asknostr