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📜 In case you have missed my last couple of notes, I have now republished my 𝐫̲̲𝐞̲̲𝐥̲̲𝐚̲̲𝐭̲̲𝐢̲̲𝐨̲̲𝐧̲̲𝐬̲̲𝐡̲̲𝐢̲̲𝐩̲̲ 𝐦̲̲𝐢̲̲𝐧̲̲𝐢̲̲-̲̲𝐠̲̲𝐮̲̲𝐢̲̲𝐝̲̲𝐞̲̲ based on US Psych Health Centre publication "advice for couples" to a dedicated bloggin page. 📜✨ Read the guide for free:

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💡 🫂 Relationships offer many opportunities to grow closer and support one another. This time, it is all about achieving your goals ⛳ in communication. Access it for free by clicking the link above. Support my work by reposting on Nostr and by sending me tons of Zaps 😉 Feel free to add your thoughts below! ⏬ 🌊🏄💏🫂💜 #couples #relationships #guide #communication #goals #advice #dialogue #tactics #patterns #spouses #kids #rhetoric #assertiveness #conflict #resolution #publication #blog #2026 #writing #published #post #share #repost #free #donate #zaps

Nostr is mysterious... Each client I use will show me different events. Could be a relay thing. Fascinating 😁 I will continue my two main clients. If you don't get a reply, my client might have missed it. Sheesh. #nostr #relays #clients #observation #ambiguity #events

Communicating effectively series 3/3 - Requests (#1) vs. Needs (#3) #3 𝓔𝔁𝓹𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓲𝓷𝓰 a need ◉ F̲̲E̲̲E̲̲L̲̲I̲̲N̲̲G̲̲ ◉ E̲̲X̲̲P̲̲L̲̲A̲̲N̲̲A̲̲T̲̲I̲̲O̲̲N̲̲ ◉ N̲̲E̲̲E̲̲D̲̲ ◉ 💬 I feel like I made a mistake by not letting you now the tank was running out. But I also feel unsafe going to the gas station late. I am scared of walking around alone at night. I would like to be able to run errands and simply leave a note when the tank is low. Do you understand where I'm coming from? * notice and declare a potential mistake as it helps alleviate immediate steam; however this should only happen if you s̲̲e̲̲e̲̲ your part in this and do not feel accused; do not reply in a servile or defensive manner (this only invites blame and abandonment), instead simply recognize that everyone is responsible to a degree; offering early transparency thus accelerates the formation of consensus * avoid referring to the past; especially: do not defend or justify (alleged) p̲̲a̲̲s̲̲t̲̲ m̲̲i̲̲s̲̲t̲̲a̲̲k̲̲e̲̲s̲̲. Instead, verbalize patterns that you consider gave them rise without blame and in present tense ("I feel like...", "It is not safe", "I am __ (scared, disappointed, hurt)", "it makes it hard for me to __ (go to the station, remember to check the car) when __ (it is late, I am short on time, I am exhausted)"). This shifts the frame from personal shortcomings to a relatable situation, inviting the other party to help, give a fresh perspective, or even contribute to a structural recalibration * the EXPLANATION part is very short ("I am scared of walking around at night") which invites the other party to inquire further or conclude for themselves and understand * "I would like to..." expresses a wish w̲̲i̲̲t̲̲h̲̲o̲̲u̲̲t̲̲ a̲̲s̲̲k̲̲i̲̲n̲̲g̲̲ f̲̲o̲̲r̲̲ a̲̲p̲̲p̲̲r̲̲o̲̲v̲̲a̲̲l̲̲ * the final question is there only to ask for understanding; this makes it clear that the party primarily requests validation https://www.magellanhealth.com/wp-content/uploads/documents/sites/7/2021/02/8f0540dd2b9878d0cf1c53227e1c3c87.pdf #relationship #spouses #kids #coworkers #bosses #communication #advice #tactics #strategy #needy #selfhelp #negotiation #rhetoric #assertiveness #selfassertion #conflict #resolution #protocol

Communicating effectively series 2/3 - Requests (#1) vs. Needs (#3) #2 𝓡𝓮𝓼𝓹𝓸𝓷𝓭𝓲𝓷𝓰 to an expressed need / confrontation / ◉ R̲̲E̲̲F̲̲L̲̲E̲̲C̲̲T̲̲ and ◉ V̲̲A̲̲L̲̲I̲̲D̲̲A̲̲T̲̲E̲̲. 💬 I understand. It can be really annoying trying to go somewhere only to realize an empty tank. That must have been really frustrating. * active listening makes sure the initiator feels understood * validation =/= agreement https://www.magellanhealth.com/wp-content/uploads/documents/sites/7/2021/02/8f0540dd2b9878d0cf1c53227e1c3c87.pdf #relationship #spouses #kids #coworkers #bosses #communication #advice #tactics #strategy #needy #selfhelp #negotiation #rhetoric #assertiveness #selfassertion #conflict #resolution #protocol

Communicating effectively series 1/3 - Requests (#1) vs. Needs (#3) #1 𝓐𝓼𝓼𝓮𝓻𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 a request ◉ F̲̲A̲̲C̲̲T̲̲ ◉ F̲̲E̲̲E̲̲L̲̲I̲̲N̲̲G̲̲ ◉ R̲̲E̲̲Q̲̲U̲̲E̲̲S̲̲T̲̲ ◉ 💬 When I drove to work today, I noticed that the car is nearly out of gas (FACT). I felt annoyed and I got angry (FEELING). When you use the car to run errands, I would like you to refill the tank (REQUEST). * separate recent o̲̲b̲̲s̲̲e̲̲r̲̲v̲̲a̲̲t̲̲i̲̲o̲̲n̲̲ ("empty tank") from suspected chain of events ("someone did not fill the tank up", "someone was careless", "someone had to run errands late at night", "someone decided that sharing a single car would be a 'great idea'" etc.) and refer only to the former: the most reliable observation ("fact") * stick to "I"-s̲̲t̲̲a̲̲t̲̲e̲̲m̲̲e̲̲n̲̲t̲̲s̲̲ when expressing emotions; resist t̲̲e̲̲m̲̲p̲̲t̲̲a̲̲t̲̲i̲̲o̲̲n̲̲ t̲̲o̲̲ a̲̲t̲̲t̲̲a̲̲c̲̲k̲̲ and blame ("Why have you done this to me?", "Can't you be reliable for once?") * be very clear about y̲̲o̲̲u̲̲r̲̲ e̲̲x̲̲p̲̲e̲̲c̲̲t̲̲a̲̲t̲̲i̲̲o̲̲n̲̲s̲̲; when addressing a detected unbalance or overstepping of personal boundary, do not phrase your concern as a question or suggestions, but as a friendly and self-assured demand * it helps when important expectations have been r̲̲e̲̲v̲̲e̲̲a̲̲l̲̲e̲̲d̲̲ by both parties previously, possibly discussed and written down. An established set of rules and continuous exchanges / negotiations enable c̲̲o̲̲n̲̲f̲̲r̲̲o̲̲n̲̲t̲̲a̲̲t̲̲i̲̲o̲̲n̲̲ b̲̲y̲̲ r̲̲e̲̲f̲̲e̲̲r̲̲r̲̲a̲̲l̲̲ (to the rules) and reduce initiator vulnerability * Routinely p̲̲r̲̲e̲̲s̲̲e̲̲n̲̲c̲̲e̲̲ (in-person, off screens), frequent c̲̲h̲̲e̲̲c̲̲k̲̲-̲̲i̲̲n̲̲s̲̲ ("how was your afternoon?", "would you like to go out tonight?"), and a̲̲c̲̲t̲̲i̲̲v̲̲e̲̲ l̲̲i̲̲s̲̲t̲̲e̲̲n̲̲i̲̲n̲̲g̲̲ ("right", "gotcha", "how __ (adorable, happy, strange)!", "I wonder what happened to __", "So... do you to slap this guy in the face now or what?") all contribute to a bond of u̲̲n̲̲d̲̲e̲̲r̲̲s̲̲t̲̲a̲̲n̲̲d̲̲i̲̲n̲̲g̲̲ and e̲̲m̲̲o̲̲t̲̲i̲̲o̲̲n̲̲a̲̲l̲̲ c̲̲o̲̲n̲̲n̲̲e̲̲c̲̲t̲̲i̲̲o̲̲n̲̲, increasing potential for mutual support during times of hardship, as well as fast recovery after events of disappointment https://www.magellanhealth.com/wp-content/uploads/documents/sites/7/2021/02/8f0540dd2b9878d0cf1c53227e1c3c87.pdf #relationship #spouses #kids #coworkers #bosses #communication #advice #tactics #strategy #needy #selfhelp #negotiation #rhetoric #assertiveness #selfassertion #conflict #resolution #protocol

Nostr is my hub for #news. These channels post non-stop many posts per hour. Any similar channels you guys would recommend? Looking preferably for German and European news on politics, economy - with as little tech and sports as possible, neutral reporting and to right-leaning topics. @Europe Says @Bytes Europe #asknostr #news #channels #recomendations

Do not trust. At least not in any absolute sense. This world is not trustworthy. Instead, be mindful and selective. The more publicity you attain, the more your words receive weight. Not everyone can handle the publicity, the turmoils and backlash that entails. Exposing oneself to people is only reasonable with strong historic ties and backing. Anyone might become your enemy. When it comes to it, you can be smeared and cancelled. Be smart, be a provider that others need so you can't simply be cancelled, be your own guard and look out after yourself as you are your biggest ally. #advice #trust #exposure #boundaries #cancel #culture #selfdefense View quoted note →

INFLATION - The delievery rounds of money. A take on first-mover privilege in the inflation chain. Starting point: federal bank introduces new money. * Privileged Access: Banks and corporations expand their assets while prices rise. * The waiting line: Regular people with jobs deal with surges of daily expenses immediately - while wages are delayed to adjust last. Possible countermeasures. * Stretch your expense cycles! Invest wages in inflation-resistant assets immediately. This way, you could bide the next wage increase, finally enabling purchases with maximized purchasing power. * Cache your wages in inflation-resistant (non-monetary) assets. This allows you to partially bypass banking supremacy and follow suit to bigger investors. * Additionally, grow and contribute to self-sustaining ecosystems and communities. This prepares you and your loved ones for future upheavals and mitigates outcomes of a potential collapse. Any points I missed, more ideas to consider? Playing on a level playing field is really what we should all be striving for. Staying ethical we need to hold authorities, superiors and the privileged elites accountable. The powerful should serve the people, just as we serve them. The right for owership needs to be defended but solely for goods, not for owning people! View quoted note → #financialliteracy #knowledge #inflation #banking #assets #costs #costofliving #expenses #finance #sovereignty #living #advice #discussion #plebs #majorityconcern #ownership #9to5 #slaves #freetheslaves

Nostriches, do you believe Nostr already is - or will be considered - a part of the Fediverse (Mastodon etc.)? My take: No, it is not - and probably will not either. Alex Gleason asserted at Nostrasia 2023 (YouTube: https\://www.youtube.com/watch?v=075wrIJ1vHg) that Nostr (with Mostr bridge) could be considered part of the fediverse. However, fediverse networks such as Mastodon and Pleroma all use ActivityPub which does not federate with other protocols. This becomes evident in Nostr's need for bridges "virtualizing" Mastodon events vice versa. Intermediary translation increases operational volatility and changes on either end, reimplementations or new features, by default lead to disruptions and inaccessiblility on the complementary network. It also impedes on decentralization as it funnels a whole network through a single node. Diaspora could be more compatible with the Fediverse as it preceded ActivityPub but it hasn't been updated since 2024. Even if it is "backwards-compatible" for now, it should become increasingly vulnerable in the future. Because of the technical separation of protocols neither diaspora nor Nostr should be considered "Fediverse" - a term only applicable to ActivityPub powered networks. #asknostr #mastodon #activitypub #diaspora #federation #nostr #bridges #protocols #discussion

Reminder: Coworkers are NOT your friends. Oversharing is a bad idea. Keeping it professional will help you stay on top - of your emotions, your boundaries, even your private life. Your emotions in check, try expressing curiosity and delight whenever possible. There is no reason to believe even the friendliest member won't let you slip you under pressure, with competition, rumor and layoffs being commonplace. #foodforthought #work #relationships #culture #life #advice

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Your coworkers are not your friends, and there are some sobering reasons why. The truth is that workplace friendships can play a cruel trick on you.

#mostr issue: cannot bridge mastodon account "@bonnypreppingquine@mastodonapp.uk". It is from a lesser-known instance. Can you recommend another fediverse bridge, I only know of mostr. https://mastodonapp.uk/about #error #asknostr #help #bridge #mastodon

Traditional German kitchen: Sauerbraten, Leberknödel...

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Old-School German Dishes That Are Sadly Disappearing From Tables - Mashed

Old-school German dishes like saumagen, eisbein, sauerbraten, and more have fallen out of fashion, making them sadly harder to find on tables today.

Everytime I scoop around Mastodon, trying to find a corner not gated by social justice climate communism, I continue to fail, get frustrated and leave. Now on nostr we simply hand-pick mastodon accounts, bridge, lean back and enjoy our handcrafted portal kingdom. Thank you mostr and the nostrverse, liberating people everywhere to find their place! Keep sharing, speak your truth - live and real with nostr. #mastodon #nostr #fediverse #leftism #communism #brainwash #bubble #freedom #protocol

Back to the era of candles and horse carts 🐴 ... Who would have guessed time travel could be so simple? 😉

Der Postillon

"Was? Strom?" – Südwestberliner bereits vollständig an neue Lebensbedingungen angepasst

Berlin (dpo) - Die Stromversorgung im Südwesten Berlins ist heute nach einem viertägigen Ausfall wiederhergestellt worden. Die Bewohner vor Ort z...

Dessau, Polizeigewalt? View quoted note →