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the difference between connection and friendship is substantial, and it's rarer to find friends than connections, but both have their value, and every friendship began as a first interaction followed by a connection. being in touch with a few people on the regular is a foundation you can build upon, but it takes active effort to maintain it. one difference between a friend and a connection is that friends tend to participate in each others lives more actively.
Asking Random Strangers to Be My Friend it helps a bit that everyone there is going to college, but one important thing he does here is not make a big deal out of the rejections. there's a camera there, and everyone can see it, but that's both good and bad. it makes people curious because he's making a video, but a lot of people don't like being on camera and might think it's some kind of prank, so i'm thinking it kind of doesn't make much of a difference. you feel like you're with him as a viewer, but that's an illusion. people just saw a dude walking around alone with a selfie camera.
i think if i was going to try having tech as a hobby again, i'd have to do it in a deliberately pointless way, such as messing around with outdated tech, make it do silly stuff, etc. would be kind of funny to not even own a desktop computer except for something ridiculous that can't even connect to the Internet.
a group of guys try to make friends in hard places: practical demonstration of what you'd have to do to make friends if you were starting completely from scratch.
it's always a bit like that once you get to know people - "i don't want to be the difficult one... but i'm the difficult one." image
you're the home maker, not your kids, so it makes sense - that's like asking the pigs to feed the cows image
someone joked that their hobby is to kill time, so i joked they must go to bars a lot then, and i was correct. arguably, going to a bar, especially if it's the same group of people every time, is a kind of hobby. like Cheers the TV show. some people do that without the alcohol. dad is retired and he likes to just sit at a table they put out at the local shopping centre and wait for people he knows to pass by to strike up a conversation. he has enough acquaintances that there's a pretty good chance that someone he knows is going to pass through there.