note that this doesn't say that introverts never talk. nor does it say that they can't be wordy or emotional. this is more about where, when and how often they like to engage with people face-to-face.

yes, i do in fact care if i hurt people's feelings, because feelings more important to me than being so damned sensible and correct all the time.

most people have probably not had the opportunity to get to know themselves for 3 years with no external pressures shaping them. i think i've pretty much reached my feral state now. living like a goblin. 😆 i can hear my own thoughts and feeling very clearly now because i have had silence around me for so long. helps when you're trying to figure out who the hell you are, and not what the world wants you to be. still trying to figure out how to step out of this proverbial womb i'm in right now. a rebirth needs to happen and there will be some screaming.

you can't really build up a portfolio of communicating with people. in computer programming (my old job) i could get hired by showing them examples of my work. not quite so easy to if what you need is to *develop* those skills first, which you can't exactly do at home. but how do you do that without any qualifications? a lot of my job ideas seem impossible because i function badly in structured learning environments such as schools.

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i think i may have figured out one reason why it's so difficult for me to match people on dating sites... i'm an INFP and my ideal match is an INFJ/ENFJ and they are rare. INTJ/ENTJ could work on a conversational level, but i'd probably find her too cold and she'd find me too emotional. swap out another letter and you get, ISFJ/ESFJ, which are common. it was my mother's type and i didn't get along with her well as an adult. emphatic and emotional but she didn't understand me because she was an S-type (sensing, sensible, practical) while i'm an N-type (iNtuitive, imaginative, thoughtful) so we constantly misunderstood each others emotional needs as adults.

from the description of the INFP (Mediator) personality type, that i appear to be: > But because this personality type makes up such a small portion of the population, Mediators may sometimes feel lonely or invisible, adrift in a world that doesn’t seem to appreciate the traits that make them unique. yeah, i feel this a lot, tbh. i mean, the way they write it is a bit "snow flakey", because i wouldn't use the word "appreciate". i don't generally assume i'm worthy of appreciation.

sometimes i don't go outside because i'd like to actually be presentable and comfortable to be around before i do that, but i don't have the energy.

took a new Myers-Briggs test out of curiosity. got INFP (mediator type). used to work as a software programmer. they're typically INTJ (architect type). i can be an architect in an emergency, but the more life experience i gain, the less i identify with this kind of role or personality. i don't like being that cool, logical and methodical. mediators want to listen, help and uplift. apparently it's a bit of a rare personality type. INFP/mediator: https://www.16personalities.com/infp-personality INTJ/architect: https://www.16personalities.com/intj-personality

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proposed alternative lyrics for "Harder, Faster, Better, Stronger" by Daft Punk

this is a trait on the Big Five personality scale that psychologists use. bit of a judgmental way of describing someone who wants to reduce conflict and get along with others. the opposite would be disagreeable, blunt or inflexible. yes, you always know where you've got a person like that, but they will not work with you and it's always their way or the highway. they come across as a bit contrarian and flippant to people of the more agreeable type.

this rings very true to me

it's kind of easy to forget that simple and clean fashion, furniture and interior designs with pastel colours is a "Scandi" thing when you're surrounded by it everywhere you look in any city here and just consider it trendy and modern.

baited and trapped

not sure if i'm going to actually put up that poster about fixing computers but i did decide to join a chat group on Venn for people who want to meet for beer on Fridays once a month.

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