in a weird way, my kink is: if you were so tired that you forgot to shower and you've got rings under your eyes, we have passionate sex anyway, and so what? and the next morning, she asks what i want for breakfast. okay, i love that. bluntly speaking, i'm not really concerned if your tits are perky or your bank account looks good. i have *some* beauty standards. but "average" is enough. beyond that, i have other concerns.

i think one thing young people do a lot is concern themselves with details and getting them right, because you have to learn the rules before you can learn how to break them. so they're afraid of standing out and they react negatively to anyone their own age who does. as you mature, the details become less important. or should become less important anyway. some people never get over that stage and remain permanently obsessed with them, and having everything in order becomes their idea of maturity.

90% of people you find in dating sites have physical activity as their main interest. people really love that stuff. i'm a bit more indoorsy i admit.

the girl i broke up with called me an encyclopaedia. the thing about encyclopaedias is that they don't perform much work. they just sit there and compile knowledge so others can access it quickly. it would have been funny if she had nicknamed me Wikipedia.

our last date wasn't really a date, but a meeting where we broke up. we didn't even kiss. we just hugged for a short time.

she gave me a perfume called Golddigger. i don't have money and she knows that, and i wasn't digging for her gold. she also doesn't know much English slang and isn't the type to say things indirectly, so it probably didn't mean anything.

this is about the difficulty of matchmaking in multiplayer video games, but it feels like it also applies to dating.

Sanskrit is a language from India a lot of words in Europe are found in it sam- or sammen in the Scandi langs means "together" skrift means "writing" samskrift = written together, collected writings i believe "Sanskrit" essentially means "written together". so, Sanskrit is samskrift. also, "sann" means true. so "Sanskrit" might alternatively mean "true writing".

the girl i'm dating is teaching me some kind of lesson about life intentionally or unintentionally not really that important i know that if i'm struggling and i'm frustrated, this means i'm learning something, whether i like it or not.

you have an education and job and you have a stable income, but at what cost? i may not have luxuries or the freedom to travel. but my mind is free to think.

so, dharma as in the natural order of things, justice, law, these are the eternal rules of life and the universe artha as in human health, prosperity, skill, fulfilment kama is about desire, pleasure and enjoyment of the sensory things moksha as in spiritual enlightenment and seeing the bigger picture and those are the four puruṣārthas in Hinduism. all of his emerges from Brahman, the divine creator or the universe. the devas (deities) are the manifestations or avatars of Brahman. in Christianity you can compare to Jesus as an avatar of God, and to some extent, the prophets and saints. it's an interesting viewpoint on what i essentially consider one and the same thing.

ah, this is very interesting. Maslow's hierarchy of human needs is featured in the wiki article on artha - a concept from Hinduism. though oddly, i've seen self-actualisation in that hierarchy include the spiritual aspects, but that's moksha according to Hinduism, because artha doesn't really include the spiritual attainment part. the same general ideas as you find in western philosophy and religion but arranged differently.

so, dharma and moksha in Indian philosophy can be contrasted as "worldly pursuits" on the one hand and "spiritual pursuits" on the other. and different Indian scholars disagree on whether the two are compatible or not. according to some, the path to moksha cannot be attained while also pursuing dharma, and vice versa. and i suppose that's where you get monasticism, an concept that also exists in Christianity. the other school of thought is where you do the good works but in an enlightened way. a union of dharma and moksha. a third option is a union of people who work together as a unit, according to what suits them best, but with a common understanding that these are different roles.

i can relate to the experiences of this guy:

Loneliness During Spiritual Awakening – Jagjot Singh

this isn't about religion or superstition, because the concept is also found in philosophy. but Hinduism and Buddhism have it codified in scripture, in a way that isn't strictly attached to a single belief system. it's a process that a human brain is capable of undergoing. teaching and encouragement can accelerate it but it can also happen by accident.

if you don't follow the doctor's orders, will he put you under cardiac arrest?

Bhagavad Gita - Wikipedia

a lot of the concepts in this ancient Indian text - which is a core text in all branches of Hinduism - are awfully close to concepts used in modern psychology.

man, i was in a bad place yesterday

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it's new to me that someone is having strong opinions about me.

oh buy i'm not very easy to be in a relationship with, i think.