Yes I’m very interested in hearing from males on this, so thank you. So it’s inbred in men to think that having any sexual thoughts about a man is ‘gay’? What about the ‘dance scenes’ of years ago? We’d pop pills and enjoy each other no matter what gender they were, the majority of the time the next hour or day we wouldn’t ever consider ourselves as ‘gay’ just having some ‘fun’.

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Sikto 1 year ago
We just don’t have them. I’ve never had sexual thoughts about another man. Doesn’t mean I don’t remember wrestling around with my male cousins and brothers and getting an erection, but at that age I would get an erection from walking down the street in sweat pants.
Inbred? Having sexual urges about another person of the same sex is the definition of gay. Straight men don't have any such urges. I'm not trying to deny such urges, I literally never had any. Except this one time, a latino guy with moused up wet-look curly hair and bronze skin and a very soft voice came to clean my house. Other than that, never.
You guys up north must have had a different dance scene to us :-p I had a few female friends who liked the music but felt ignored, said that raver guys just wanted to take drugs and dance at 120 bpm, so always wanted to go to R&B / Latin clubs instead
There's a difference between identity and activity. You can do some gay stuff and still not consider yourself a gay person. But yes, sexual thoughts about the same gender is a pretty gay activity.
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Bob 1 year ago
Fun fact: in ancient Rome and prior, there was no concept of "gay" and nobody looked down upon any "gay" behavior. It was just a person experiencing another person.
Rome had "prison" homophobia - no big deal if you're a "top", but a major shame if you're a " bottom". They also greatly stigmatised cunnilingus. Hellenistic Greeks were very tolerant, by contrast. I like that passage in the Anabasis, where (hetero) Xenophon is gently teasing his (gay horndog) friend for the risks he ran for some good looking guy.