Yeah, some lessons are painful. Just don’t offer to give her money anymore and cite this specific instance and how it affected your health. Boundaries are so important.

It's unfortunately the other way around. I suppose to do everything my parents can't do with no education and none of the resources they have. Basically: I'm being punished for confiding in people because it "embarrassed" them so until I admit I'm "wrong" and fall to the feet of my mother who intentionally makes herself sick I'm exiled from the family.