Yup. NIP17 I just don't get. It works well for one situation: two humans who trust each other and each have their own dedicated relay. Which, I grant, that is a real situation, and it's a novel solution there, but that's it. Two humans sharing the same relay, you can easily work out who is talking to who, so may as well just have the NIP04 exposed metadata so you're not fooling each other. NIP17 groups is a non-starter for me. And then the giftwrap spam/client-side processing tax on top of it all. I just dunno.