The aggressor is very clear - it is the US/NATO. They used your country to fight a proxy war against Russia as they have used so many countries before. They don't care that your country is being ruined and so many Ukrainian men are being kilked; indeed they are quite happy about it because they hold no love for your country (unlike many, many Russians). You are a fool lost in hate and delusion and your path will continue to be very painful until you start to perceive who has tricked and betrayed you.