I think the most important thing to highlight is that Monero actually is "fuck you money" while Bitcoin is not anymore.
Bitcoiners de-Emphasize the importance of the community and believe that the technology Is unassailable.
There are external factors that greatly affect the network. Inviting normies Wall street and VC capital in search of greater adoption undermines the cypherpunk ethos that got Bitcoin to where it is today. Monero is a smaller community that does not have that problem (yet).
Over the last five years or so Bitcoin has decided to emphasize adoption and not ensuring that the chain itself is censorship resistant.
By which I mean it's not private.
Without privacy, there is no censorship resistance.
By putting adoption before privacy/censorship resistance Bitcoin seems inevitably destined for regulatory capture.