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Laser laser@primal.net 4 months ago
A less talked about female competitive tactic is social triangulation. Women will sabatoge their friends/family member's marriages by shaping their interactions around a chronic gossip and critique of their relationship under the guise of caring, thus introducing discontent and ultimately destabilizing the relationship. If you make a woman mad on the internet, you can pretty much guarantee she is going to ruin one of her friends relationships. Strong men in strong marriages have already developed a healthy suspicion of triangulation in their woman. #MasculineFrame #FeministFrame View quoted note → image
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Vitamin E 4 months ago
This is key - as a woman you have to separate yourself from other women who want to talk poorly about their husbands because they will eventually try to lead you to talk poorly about your husband and may even question your marriage. I only want friendships with women who talk positively about their husbands!! You are who you surround yourself with!
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Drea 4 months ago
You draw some dramatic conclusions here that make it seem like you do not have many relationships with real women. I do not mean internet accounts. I have never witnessed or experienced this phenomenon you describe in my years of having female friendships. I think I have seen these themes play out in tv shows, though. Just mostly fictional drama is my guess.
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Laser laser@primal.net 4 months ago
To be fair, I don't think our worlds even remotely touch. The island girl world is for girls who surround themselves with men, probably as an artifact of growing up around a secure male presence or surrounded by brothers /other men. I grew up around women. View quoted note →
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Drea 4 months ago
You know, I did have one friend about a decade ago whose first response to everything seemed to be “omg girl, dump him” and I thought she was kind of silly. She probably fits in this category. Definitely the minority, though. She basically dumped me because I couldn’t attend her weekend birthday even that would have cost hundreds of dollars while I was a starving grad student. These women do not keep good friends long and dont have much influence.
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Laser laser@primal.net 4 months ago
My wife is sort of like this. She grew up in a man's world and, almost paradoxically, didn't experience these things with other women. Then she moved to the West, where most people grow up in a woman's world.
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Drea 4 months ago
I get that. I have studied math and teach math. My closest female friends are math profs like me. Our mentors are all men, mathematicians from earlier generations. But I have the worst “daddy issues” that I should be a country musician. I could write a book about my daddy issues. But my professors during my formative years gave me security and structure and I still know them well to this day, so you are correct in that regard. I did not realize working in a male dominated field has had this unintended but positive consequence. Interesting. Nice.
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Drea 4 months ago
I did end up married. I lost my husband tragically and it took me too long to recover. It still hurts a decade later. I do not know how people jump into a new relationship after something like that. I ran off to teach for the Peace Corps for a while then found my purpose with other worthy pursuits instead of remarrying. I am too old to have children of my own now. All my friends are married with families and I am happy to be Auntie Drea. Sounds sad, but I am actually like Candide, convinced I live in the best if all possible worlds 🤣
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