I think I agree on all accounts. But a person doing the wrong thing is still always in the wrong. I hate using the phrase victim blaming, but I do see it happen so often even in the smallest cases. Yes I live my life low trust as well, but it's exhausting and kind of unhealthy to your personal growth. You have to trust people to survive, you get unlucky sometimes. People want to feel safe outside their community and protected from bad people doing bad things. But I also understand the reality is no one can protect you, privacy is the toothpaste you can't put back in the tube. Life is full of that balance. Some have more stake in their online identity than others.