Yeah sure. It can get pedantic. For people I aim to use could instead, along with encouragement instead of direction. And in your example ‘it’, eg “if you want the dough to rise faster, it needs to be in a warm humid environment”, that way it’s presented as an opportunity for the person to own without an implication of being wrong, the focus is on the dough not them. My thinking is more or less that of Adler, and his ideas of horizontal not vertical relationship structures.