He isn't high IQ, but rather high body count. I think he says his body count is about 300. i estimate his IQ at around 120.
but he supposedly used to be in porn, and supposedly has a big dick.
If you can perform in bed on a porn level and make women come that basically reverses the dynamic. normally a man does anything the woman wants because she's making him come, whereas women usually do not come and therefore it's a struggle to get them to put out. but if you make women come then they are the ones struggling to please you while all you do is fuck.
so if that's his situation then he is using the correct strategy FOR HIM.
but if you're an average man then your problems only begin when you get the woman to put out, because chances are you won't make her come but if you're not completely repulsive she may let you fuck her again as long as there is something in it for her and this sets you up for a dynamic where you constantly have to provide her with something she needs for her to keep putting out ... until you get married and at that point she has already received all you have to offer - a paper that says she owns half of all your stuff. after that she will only fuck other guys that make her come until you lose your job then she will divorce you.
Jay said two things actually:
1 - that you must be attractive before you can be a player
2 - that you should not try to attract women but rather screen women for genuine attraction that is already there and then just fuck them
he forgot to mention
3 - this only works if you can fuck their brains out every time
so really his strategy only is applicable to a small subset of men.
he also said that he has a real GF that he's been with for 8 years ( and fucked 80 other women in the time they been together )
my point is one size does not fit all. you can't just step into somebody else's shoes. everybody has to find what works for them. but observations about the nature of females largely hold true even when made by people whose situation is different from yours.
guys like Jay are useful because of their sheer volume of experience that allows them to understand female nature without having to be a genius.
personally i just got enough experience to have a general idea and it wasn't worth it for me to keep going - that doesn't mean i can't continue to improve my understanding by leaning on experience of OTHERS who are obsessed with having as many women as possible.
ultimately to be a womanizer you must have something women want - whether it is thick wallet or thick cock. yes you can get women if you don't have those things but the satisfaction doesn't come from getting them - it comes from them crying and begging you not to leave them. without that it's just masturbation.
in other words the purpose of dating women should be to inflate your ego - but that only works when you have what women want. simply getting women without having what they want - will not inflate your ego because you will never feel like you're in control of the dynamic.
i don't think it is realistic to become much better in bed ( other than simply learning to fuck women like dogs rather than making gentle love to them like a faggot ) but it is certainly possible to get rich, and women are turned on by money and power as much as they are by dick.
HOWEVER if you get rich you will have to be very careful not to fall in love, so again, it will only work if you have the right psychology to leverage that power without allowing the woman to psychologically manipulate you.
if you're an average romantic honestly porn is the best bet.
All fair points, I just got a bit fed up because of how pushy and self-righteous some of these people are. If they were so sure that they had it all figured out I doubt they'd be so strident.
BTW, I was saying Jay is high IQ *by PUA standards*. Apart from the womanizing, he seems like your typical Asian software engineer (he was working class until 2020 or so and then taught himself how to code).
For me, though it may sound silly, the biggest hurdles with womanizing are:
1/ logistical
2/ desire
On point 1, most of the women I meet who would be open to hookups live in the city and for the most part I don't want to go there other than when I have some specific business there. I don't want to be there, for example, on Saturday nights with no other purpose than to go out to a bar or restaurant or w/e. If a girl invited me over, maybe.
On 2, I'm not so worried about being unable to please women in bed, but I find it hard to get motivated to seek them out. I don't want to pay for what others got for free, I don't want stds, and I don't want to put up with a lot of drama and BS; all of which can be issues with the sort of girls open to hookups. I don't feel such an urge for pussy that it overrides good sense.
All of this is to say that I am open to hookups in some circumstances but I am not motivated enough to make it a big part of my life. If it happens, it happens. I have had girls seek me out for sex, but I am not going to do the same with them outside of my usual routine. The PUAs who are trying to sell something will say I am "making excuses". I say they have tunnel vision and don't realize there are men with other priorities, and anyway I am not telling anyone else how to live.
PS regarding porn, I don't get the hangup our society has with this at all. The majority of people, including women(?), watch it. Yet no one wants to admit it and people are mortified and ashamed to discuss it in public, as if it doesn't exist despite being 1/7 of the entire internet today. E.g. men who watch it seem to feel like it's a personal failure and that they should rather be out getting laid, when the reality is it doesn't matter. I don't know what to do with these humans...
well we aren't so different from "normies" - only real difference is they lie about everything and we discuss it openly ( though anonymously ).
apparently 80% of single men today are not dating, as in have checked out of the sexual marketplace. i think you said 80% watch porn, if so it's quite a coincidence LOL.
this is why women are so desperate these days. i have literally seen tears in their eyes - this is how badly they want a man but all they get is fuckboys who pump and dump them. which is what they deserve because they only want you because they think they can't have you and once they have you their mind immediately switches to "can i do better ?"
but yeah getting women has never been easier but also it has never been more pointless because in the past a woman offered you orgasm and children and today you can get orgasm with porn and women don't want children until they hit the wall and it's too late.
but it's not just PUAs that try to make it out as if what they do is glorious when it's actually meaningless. it was the same with powerlifters for example - who instead of saying that your body count is the purpose of life would say that your bench press max is the purpose of your life. i was one of them. my 400 lbs max was i would say equally as impressive as JayBer's 300 body count, but also equally as pointless.
but it was super important to me then, mainly because i was good at it so i convinced myself that is what was important. everybody does this ! everybody convinces themselves that what they are good at is important and what others are good at is not.
frankly - it may be the only way to be happy. i mean imagine if you believed the opposite ?
or maybe i was good at it BECAUSE it was important to me ? actually it's a vicious cycle.
it would be nice to be able to deliberately create such a vicious cycle for something that actually matters - like making money. it seems that's what Andrew Tate has done.