That is why the pear stack matters (a.k.a hyper* stack) (a.k.a dat stack).
https://docs.pears.com
Its not compatible with nostr but rebuilding nostr as a concept on top of it will create nostr on steroids. More throughput with less issues.
At some point we will have to do it 🙂
Those relay issues are solved, because for any particular peer, there is a way to discover all relays that have the data, so you dont have to follow specific relays. ypu can find them on demand.
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