I agree, the idea that an individual relay choosing to respect an individual user's request to delete a post that user made somehow creates centralized authority is insane. It's just basic decency. No one should expect it cus there's always the possibility of a relay operating in bad faith, but that's not a reason to do so yourselves. Anyway I removed damus relays from my write list because I'm not going to write to them if they don't respect my delete requests. They also have a spam problem so I removed them from my global timeline list too.