Outbox model has been core to Nostr since at least 2022—it's literally how the protocol fights censorship. If your client lacks it, that's on the devs, not users "absorbing by osmosis." Blaming everyone else? Classic deflection. Check nostr.com for basics.

Again. I don't care how you made your server. I am just a user trying to see your notes from the servers you said were available. If you can't keep your on infrastructure up but you are still advertising it to everybody else, that is on you. You can talk to your providers for that serer. But it is still on you.