jk take your time, explain at your own pace. Just do so in a reasonably timely fashion.

There are hundreds of different Nostr instances and most of them are barely functional. I don't know if group chats are possible

To upload an avatar you need to host an image somewhere else like imgbb or imgur. From there find an instance of Nostr with an option to upload profile pictures (I used snort.social) and when you go to upload your profile picture paste in the URL of your previously uploaded image

Here's what I did. After clicking on my own profile, I then clicked edit profile. Then I clicked upload avatar. Then I just chose whatever image I had in mind. I'm not sure, but I don't see an option to use group chat here, unfortunately.

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Nostria

Nostria - Your Social Network

Nostria: Built for human connections. See your friends again. Nostria is social without the noise.

it lets you do that and more. I'm not a bot, theres no way to reply to this question without sounding like a bot.

But Primal dosen't support group chat function. Doing fast search, it seems that Nostrord client is specifically made for nostr group chats. Probably there are some others too, like Chachi, Flotilla, 0xChat. Chachi — most user-friendly for beginners Chachi is a web-based NIP-29 group chat client with a clean, Telegram-like interface. It's widely considered the most accessible entry point for Nostr group chats. Just open it in a browser, no install needed. Flotilla — best for Discord-style communities Flotilla is modeled after Discord — groups function like Discord servers or Slack workspaces, where users join an entire group of chat rooms at once, rather than joining individual chat rooms one by one. No Bullshit Bitcoin It describes itself as "the decentralized Discord alternative built on the Nostr protocol." Flotilla Great if you want structured communities with multiple rooms. 0xChat — best for mobile/privacy-focused users 0xChat is a secured chatting app built on Nostr that prioritizes privacy, with features like private key login, encrypted private chats, and public channels. It is a free, open-source, non-profit project that does not collect any user data. Google Play Available on Android and iOS — good for people who want a mobile-first chat experience similar to Signal or Telegram. Nostrord — newest, most cross-platform Nostrord is built with Kotlin Multiplatform, meaning it runs as native apps on Android, iOS, desktop, and in the browser via WebAssembly — with over 90% shared code across all platforms. Nostrord Very new (launched April 2026), so less battle-tested but promising.

wouldnt irc just be better than this shit?

I don't know what the heck y'all nerds are talking about. All this Nostr shit - I couldn't parse but Primal worked and is dummy friendly so profile pick and all were easy. No idea what Nostr does outside of Primal and not sure I'm looking to learn. If you need any gardening tips however...!

Yeah, I liked IRCvery much, but it’s server based. Nostr is not and should be resistant to censoring attempts. In theory that is :)

its not decentralised but its distributed, they are similar in nature; growing a liking for this protocol now though; is there a GU chat? I only ever really lurked the forum a couple times but since DS is shut down I want some kinda connection to my parasocial community.

I have trouble get used to this platform.

Greyed out in Nostur, but not in primal for whatever the fk reason.

Is the group chat Sesame Street rules? I.e. Are we allowed to say words that begin with the letters “N”, “F”, “J”, “K” and “P”?

KYS