Here's what I did. After clicking on my own profile, I then clicked edit profile. Then I clicked upload avatar. Then I just chose whatever image I had in mind. I'm not sure, but I don't see an option to use group chat here, unfortunately.

Check out https://nostria.app/ it lets you do that and more. I'm not a bot, theres no way to reply to this question without sounding like a bot.

wouldnt irc just be better than this shit?

Yeah, I liked IRCvery much, but it’s server based. Nostr is not and should be resistant to censoring attempts. In theory that is :)

its not decentralised but its distributed, they are similar in nature; growing a liking for this protocol now though; is there a GU chat? I only ever really lurked the forum a couple times but since DS is shut down I want some kinda connection to my parasocial community.

I have trouble get used to this platform.