We often try to figure out how to get the narcissists in our lives to love us. The reality is they will never love anyone including themselves. We must learn to give ourselves the love we deserve. We all deserve this love and we can learn to give it to ourselves. Do the work, you deserve the love!
Society has programmed us to think it's not ok for us to have or express any emotions. This is a complete lie. We all have and need to express our emotions. It's the only way to actually be healthy. We simply get to reprogram ourselves that this is ok and healthy. Allow yourself to do this and get support when you need it!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Nothing is fair in or after a relationship with a narcissist. It's not fair what they did to us and it's not fair everything falls on us. It's also not fair to us or anyone else to stay stuck there either. The good news is that everyone can do the work to heal and move forward. We all deserve to heal and move into a life we love!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Narcissists catalog and collect everything about you to use against you in the moment as well as in the future. When you express emotions, they will say you are dramatic. This is also a way for them to tell you that you are always wrong no matter what you do. The best thing is to only share with them what you absolutely have to in an emotionless way. This isn't easy though.
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Healing is not easy, in fact, it's one of the hardest things we can do. It's no harder than living through the abuse we have or being stuck in our lives afterward though. It's also something anyone can do. The decision to do the work is the hardest part. To decide to build a better life that we love and to learn to love ourselves. We all deserve this!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Any type of conversation, counseling or support is a trap that narcissists will try to lure you into. They will then use those people to further abuse you and paint you as the bad guy. It's almost always a bad idea to do these things with a narcissist. Seek out support for yourself by yourself.
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
There's always going to hell to pay in toxic relations, it's only when and how it happens. We end up not wanting to talk about anything to anyone. It's better to not talk to narcissists, but we need other people to see and hear us. Find these people and allow them to support you. Even a little time with other people helps a lot even if it's uncomfortable at first.
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Nothing is ever enough for narcissists. They will demand it and rage when they don't get it. No matter how much you give they will always demand more. It's not going to change. We must learn to give to ourselves first. It's not easy, but it's the only way forward. We can't change them, but we can choose us!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Narcissists want to keep us distracted and in continuous chaos and confusion. This makes it that much easier for them to control and manipulate us. Learning how to not always get sucked into their chaos is life changing and part of the process to get away from them. This is not easy and is a process and a practice, not something we get perfect.
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
We get to feel it in order to heal it and many times that requires us to do nothing. We can't stay busy and expect we will heal. It requires work and time to heal and move forward. Some of this time is in simply doing nothing and sitting with ourselves in our emotions. This is part of the process of doing the work!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Whether it's narcissists, toxic people or anyone else. We can't save or love them enough for them to be healthy. It's something they must do for themselves. There are no exceptions to this. We all must do the work ourselves in order to heal. Focus on yourself and do the work to heal and allow them to do it or not. Your life will get better either way and they will come with you or you will find healthier people to be with. It's not easy, but it's better than going backwards.
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
The control from narcissists feels like they have strings connected to every aspect of our lives. Every string of control we cut is a piece of our life that we take back. This isn't easy. Acknowledge every string you cut. You are literally taking your life back one string at a time! Keep moving forward!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Toxic people create and use chaos to manipulate and control everyone else, especially their target or supply. It makes it very hard to think clearly or see what's happening when there's continuous chaos. They also train us to go to them for everything, which makes things worse. Choose yourself and your life and let them live in their own chaos!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Nothing is ever enough for toxic people and there's nothing we can do to be or do enough for them. They will always blame us no matter what we do. Focus on you and your life and do the work to heal. It won't change them, but it will allow you to live your life and give yourself the love you deserve!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.
Kindness is so essential for everyone in our lives. Many of us offer this to everyone else, but do not always give it to ourselves. It doesn't help that we've been programmed to do this. We now get to reprogram ourselves to be kind to us. It's not easy, but it's not any harder than everything else we've been through and it makes every part of your life so much better!
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds.
Narcissists have been working and learning their entire lives to hide who they really are and control everyone else around them. The more we heal and the healthier we are, the easier it is to see behind the curtain. It also becomes easier to focus on ourselves than their illusion. Focus on you and your healing!
Toxic people work to get everyone else fighting with each other. They do this to isolate you and everyone else and to perpetuate chaos and drama. This allows them to control and manipulate us more easily. It is hugely damaging to everyone involved and it's not always easy to uncover. It's essential to be kind to you and find help and support.
Toxic relationships destroy so many things in our lives and much of our ability to accomplish anything in our lives. We begin to believe we can't actually do anything, or at least do it right. We can rebuild this belief in ourselves though. It takes time and work, but it's possible for everyone to do!
It often seems like no one will believe us and when they do, they don't really understand. It's even hard for us to understand it for ourselves, which makes it harder to talk about. Good people who will listen and understand are out there and willing to help and support you. We just get to find them.
It's brutal and confusing. What's worse is that most people don't realize they are in a battle until the damage has been done. When you finally see it, the pain increases because you can't not see it anymore. You can still heal, no matter where you are or what you've been through. Find support and people who understand.
