I do not understand how my liver makes it’s decisions. Yesterday I ate only a serving of scrambled eggs, one protein bar, and a bag of chips for the whole day. I also had three glasses of wine and somehow woke up like nothing happened. One day a few years ago I went out with Erik and had two margaritas with a Mexican dinner. I was so hung over I didn’t get out of bed until 5pm the next day. WTF? How does this make sense?

I want a world that is built for and lead by women just as much as it is built for and lead by men. That doesn’t mean that men and women are the same, that means that humanity is half male and half female and our systems and culture should reflect that.

At times in our relationship Erik has been the bread winner and the money coming in had his name on it. At times in our relationship I’ve been the bread winner and the money coming in had my name on it. At all times in our relationship we have been partners. If we ever get divorced we will split our money.

If they divorce he is not losing his money, they are splitting their money.

The thing with these perpetual edge lords is that they have to keep finding new people to shit on. They just get stupider and stupider and wind up shooting themselves in the foot.

The most amazing thing about the internet is that you can sit on your couch and involve yourself with nearly anything anywhere on the planet. Argentinian football, Taiwanese rice production, Cincinnati Public School union policy, Australian wildlife conservation… whatever the fuck you like. You can become part of that world while sipping tea on your couch. Wild.

In the States, in today’s world, overall, is it easier to be existing as a man or a woman? A man. In the States, in today’s world, overall, is it easier to be existing as a white person or a black person? A white person. In the states, in today’s world, overall, it is easier to be existing as a straight person or a gay person? A straight person. On and on. This is just reality. It doesn’t mean that straight white men don’t have problems in life, or even have problems specifically because they are straight, or white, or a man. It just the simple reality that as we are in the process of exiting a moment in our history that heavily, legally and culturally, favored straight white men, that it’s still a bit easier, overall, to be those things. I’m not sure why people struggle with this one so much. Sure there are assholes out there that will try to use this reality to make others feel like a bad person. And if someone is hating on you not because of something that you did but just simply for existing in this situation, then please, tell them to fuck off. There are people out there that will make the circumstance of their existence here their whole personality. That’s not healthy. Circumstances are wildly impactful, but I don’t find it psychotically healthy to identify with them too closely. Those people you should probably just have some sympathy for. But if you consider yourself a rational person, then look reality in the face and accept it. It is what it is, and it’s not about you.

If you want more women to chose to marry and have kids, maybe, don't make the job of wife and stay at home Mom such a losing game. It seems to be the same "conservatives" who push for more women to get married and have kids are the same ones who excuse a man cheating on his wife cuz well, she aged, and who complain that women will "steal" a man's money in divorce 🤦‍♀️ What an insane deal. Give up your career and income, dedicate yourself to your husband and his ambitions, stay loyal, but then also understand why he cheats and if/when you get divorced just leave without any money or career prospects? Fuck no.

Never mind the morality or the selfishness, lying to your partner in life is just monumentally stupid and short sighted. And all the ‘business geniuses’ that get caught up in affair scandals is wild. You couldn’t negotiation for an open marriage? That’s a skill issue bro.

So, what are the shitty things that men have to deal with just cuz they are men? - The draft. - Having to constantly pretend that they are invulnerable to everything. - Being ridiculed for showing any emotion besides lust or anger. - Being pressured to pretend to be a 100% hetero sex robot. - Being constantly compared and shoved into a dominance hierarchy. - Half the world telling them that they need to ‘lead’ and provide for women while the other half ridicules them for attempting to do so. - Trying to treat women as equals but still being expected to pay for a date. - The logistics of the world that keep them away from being very present in their children's day to day lives. - Not being socially allowed to be playful with their presentation. No whimsy for you!! What else?

Because someone has it worse than you dose not mean that your hardships in life are not real or deserving of care and attention. Being born female in a patriarchal world is playing life on hard mode. It just is. Facts don’t care about your feelings. ...but I care about your feelings. Not only is it okay, it’s really important for men to talk about the difficulties of being a man. There are real hardships that men face specifically because they are men. And denying these hardships and shaming people for discussing them is a big factor in how we got the red pill crew. So please let’s not repeat these errors.

Forcing women to carry their rapist's babies will be one of those things that people look back on in ~100 years in shock that humans could ever have been so blind and cruel.

When women again have full bodily autonomy then we will have an end to legalized patriarchy. But when will the cultural patriarchy hangover end and how will be know? Well in 2025, 80 of 132 catalogued films passed the Bechdel test, that's about 61%. When we get to ~90% that will be a pretty good indicator.

If you can't bring yourself to care about the lives, and experiences, and rights of women, well then maybe think about it in terms of property rights. A uterus is private property. An unauthorized pregnancy is a violation of property rights. We are of course talking about abortion in the case of rape here.