Ahh the family life

I don't lie to my husband at all, about anything. And that isn't cuz I'm some amazing and morally superior person, it's simply because I know that doing so would destroy the marriage. And I, very selfishly, want to have a partner. Life is better that way. I'm a capable clever person, if I wanted to cheat or lie, about anything, lovers, money, that pack of Newports in my dresser 🚬, I'm pretty sure I could 'get away' with it. But here is what would then happen... Every time I looked him in the eye there would be a little voice in the back of my head saying "if he knew the real you, he would hate you". The pain of that, and just the insecurity of that, would eat me up. If you don't reveal yourself to someone, you can't experience their love for you. If you build your life on lies, you have to live everyday with the knowledge that one bit of truth will destroy it. If you lie to your life partner you have to live in a castle built on sand. If I lied it would fester and fester, I would withdraw, our love life would wither, he would have questions. In the end the distance and anxiety would consume me and I would either have to confess or leave.

All these stereotypes about men this and women that are far too rigid, they just don't make sense. Good honorable qualities are attractive in everyone, male or female. Like this idea that nurturing is only attractive in women and is weak in men. Wildly inaccurate. This morning I had to take my dog to the vet. Also sitting in the waiting room was an attractive man in his 20's, way too young for me, but he had long hair, a beard... and, he was cradling a small sick dog. He was comforting that little creature and my ovaries nearly exploded. We're I in my 20's and single I would have been throwing myself at that dude 🤩 Nurturing is an honorable quality that is wildly attractive in anyone who has it.

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Women do not have legal equality until they have full bodily autonomy. Yes that means no bans on abortion. To be clear here, I am not ‘pro-abortion’. Never was there ever an abortion that wasn’t a tragedy. But it’s pretty clear, if you are not pregnant, then this is not your decision to make. Pregnant women are the only ones with the rights to make those very tough decisions. People in fancy suits hundreds of miles away have no right to make such difficult, nuanced, and personal decisions for another person. It is a wild trampling on freedom for them to attempt to. God/The Universe/Biology gave this burden and responsibility to women. We need to respect that, and respect women’s decision making.

Calories in calories out is accurate, but unhelpful. For a lot of people, certainly for me, the instinct to eat when hungry is just far too intense and that means that the much more helpful thing to focus on is keeping your appetite under control. This is why giving up sugar or going low carb or keto works so well for a lot of people. Avoiding foods that spike your blood sugar does a lot to keep your appetite nice and calm. For some people probiotics or a change in gut bacteria impacts appetite. I’m also finding that lots of fiber and water similarly keeps my appetite calm. So while yes, it all comes back to calories, what is likely to be more helpful to most people is not to focus on how much you eat, but more on what you eat and how that impacts your gut and blood sugar.

Some people will see a minority in a job and assume that they don’t really deserve that position and just got it due to a diversity quota and that will cause them to have less faith in their abilities. Other people will see a minority in a job and assume that they fought hard to be there, and faced discrimination to get there and that will cause them to have more faith in their abilities. And the world is a very @#$#$ complicated place. Often, both of these things are true. These are two relevant effects on a situation. Sometimes people get hired to meet a quota. Sometimes people had to battle a lot of discrimination to get to where they are. I have witnessed and experienced both of these. Which of these effects is more relevant is going to depend on the specific time, place, and subculture. Making summary judgments about these things is silly.

Have any of you read these books? Which was best? The Authoritarian Personality The True Believer The Psychology of Totalitarianism The Psychology of Authoritarian Leaders

Still a big hippie... don't know what happened to that skirt though 🫤

What are your values? Do you think about that much? Do you pause the check that your words and behavior match your values? Here are some things that I value: Non-violence (aggression) Autonomy (for everyone) Free speech Civil liberties Property rights Bodily autonomy Privacy Free markets Decency Self defense How about you?

There is such incredible beauty and power in motherhood. ...imagine, the ability to create whole new people! Wild.

So many problems arise from us not accepting what incredibly social creatures we are. The human survival strategy is connection and co-operation. We form bonds and groups as a means of survival and we defend our groups as if our lives depend on it, because for most of humanity it did. And now, in the modern world, when someone appears to attack our ideological tribe we still lashout as if our survival depended on it, and worse, we are blind to what we are doing as we have not accepted the reality of our species.

I’ve known plenty of Christians who are/were lovely and loving people, but also, many, many who are not. Lately in my life there has been such an epic overlap in those who call themselves Christian or who wear a cross, and those who spew hate at me. Those who want to see me subservient, those you treat me with contempt, those who try to explain to me why my dear friends will burn in hell. It’s gotten to the point where there is so much overlap that when I see a cross around someone’s neck or in a social media profile my nervous system goes into alert mode. 🫤 To the non-hateful Christians, could you maybe have a chat with your compadres here? Maybe you can encourage them to be a bit more loving. I doubt this is the impression that you’d like to be having on the world.

It’s amusing that people say Charlie Kirk believed in freedom. I have some rather old school libertarian values. I very much support civil liberties and individuality and autonomy for every one, even married women like myself. Charlie did not, he wanted me to be subservient to my husband. And what he wanted for my LGBT friends… wow. This guy liked to use words like freedom, but actively spread ideas to the contrary. Not only a hypocrite but someone who trampled on the values of liberty. Sad.

To the men who tell me that I talk too much about misogyny… were the roles reversed, if you were dealing with what I deal with, and you did nothing, I would find you to be a coward and I would lose respect for you.

“I think Charlie Kirk, God rest his soul, was a real shitbag. But I’d rather live in a world with him in it than one in which folks kill each other to get retribution or achieve political ends.” “There are things you do not want to politicize. The rule of law, democracy, and due process are ideals that belong neither to the left nor the right. They separate a society you want to live in from a society you don't. Any party or project or person who threatens to replace these foundational principles with terror and barbarism threatens us all.” - Cathy Reisenwitz