It's so stupid the way dudes will use "suck a dick" as an insult. ...bro, you have a dick... don't ya think shaming people for giving that some attention might be shooting your self interests in the foot???

SSRI’s/SNRI’s don’t cure depression, because depression isn’t caused by too little serotonin. These drugs are essentially pain killers, and they save lives. It’s pretty damn difficult to climb out of a deep psychological hole, but these pain killers can push you out of that hole. And once out, you are in a much, much better position to do the work of fixing whatever it is that is causing that depression.

I am constantly handing out this career/life hack and it baffles me that so few people do this. It goes like this… you have a special interest/career focus and you see a really interesting person talking about your topic! You’d really love to just invite them out to a bar and have an hour long conversation with them and ask them all kinds of questions about their work… but that’s kinda creepy, you can’t just do that. And so, ladies and gentlemen, what you do is... wrap that whole process in a meetup! When you’re running a meetup you can totally invite that person to a bar to give you a personalized lecture, you just have to do it in front of a bunch of other people and call it a fire side chat at an event. But this way not only will they not find your invitation creepy, they will be flattered, they will show up, and then they will thank you!!! 🙌 It’s the most genius career hack I’ve found. Why are you not doing this?!?!?!

Buen dia a todas. We have an epic @San Juan Bit Devs this month. Janusz will be discussing his research into the privacy of Spark payments and then Isabel Foxen Duke will be taking us on a deep dive into BIP360 & Bitcoin’s quantum issue! As always RSVP below or we won’t have the right amount of beer!

Meetup

Socratic Seminar #25, Wed, May 20, 2026, 7:00 PM | Meetup

Inspired by BitDevs meetups worldwide, our Socratic Seminars are where curious minds connect, ideas evolve, and nobody leaves without learning some...

I’ve been on a psychology learning binge over the past ~5 yrs, at this point I’ve read over 30 books on the topic and my #1 take away is how wildly important it is to consciously manage your own mind. We have instincts, we likely inherent some genetic memory, our early childhood shapes our brains and forms our nervous system, we absorb the values and narratives of those around us. The thoughts that we think change the hormones in our body. Often depression and anxiety are matters of deeply ingrained subconscious perspectives on life. Consciously managing your own mind is a prerequisite to having a self directed life. The thoughts you think and how you live changes your gene expression. Your neuropathways are not fixed and can be reformed at any point in your life. In order to change a deeply ingrained thought pattern, you first need to be aware of it. Thankfully there are many scientifically proven methods for becoming aware of your own thoughts and updating them. Meditation, journaling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.

Mother’s day is and should be about honoring the heroic effort required in childbirth. Being a dedicated parent is it’s own wildly important work, but that is separate from the dangerous, traumatic, and very necessary work of birthing children. It’s such an injustice that we hide away from the world the intensity, danger, and seriousness of this work. People not appreciating the work of childbearing causes such a lack of understanding. If you are someone who has not experienced or witnessed childbirth, at the very least please watch some videos on it. Links in the comments below.

"left up to the states" ...a way to soft launch the removal of rights.

Ain't it funny that the dudes that go around calling everything "gay" and reference their right to free speech are the same dudes who lose their shit when when a lady with a septum piercing makes a mean joke about men on TikTok or when anyone makes a Charlie Kirk joke. Pick one buddy. Do you want the anything goes 'free speech' vibe or the decency vibe?

Frustration comes from a misalignment of expectation with reality. I thought humanity would be better by now. The reality is that we are not as good as I thought we would be.

The jokes that someone makes/laughs at reveals their values. When someone objects to a joke, 9 times out of 10, it’s not that that person lacks humor, it’s that they are rejecting the values revealed by that joke.

Please just walk through Walmart. You will see real people dating real people. Your algorithms are feeding you rage bait.

I am a solar panel, I am so very charged by the sun ☀️🔋😎🫶

You can find things funny when they aren't a danger to you. And I think that is why women often get the label of "humorless". A lot more things are dangerous to women than to men, and so they don't laugh at those things. Ya know like rape jokes. You're probably not going to laugh at a rape joke if you are on a date actively trying to make sure that you don't get raped. There is some nuance here, sometimes humor is a way to deal with trauma. And so whether or not a joke is funny to someone who has experienced that thing depends on the punchline. But a 'ha ha that person got raped' is wildly unlikely to get a laugh out of someone who deals with that fear everyday.

There is a positive correlation between religion and the repression of women. Why?

Those who bear the consequences of a decision are the only ones fit to make it. Someone in a fancy suit hundreds of miles away who will not have to live with the outcome of the situation is wildly unfit to make difficult reproductive choices for others. No one has more of a right to make to make reproductive choices than a pregnant woman.

The difficult and complicated part its that it’s both. I imagine we’ve all seen the very publicized examples of very crass abortion supporters who have done things like throw an abortion party, etc. That’s ugly. And it says that women matter but a fetus does not matter. I’m sure we can all also think of an example of a staunch anti-abortion campaigner who would like to see women forced to carry their rapists babies. That’s horrific. And it says that a fetus matters but a woman does not matter. The tricky part about all of this is that it’s both, and it’s not simple at all. The life and well being of a woman matters, and a fetus also matters. In tragic times and places when the their needs are at odds, then very difficult choices about which matters most have to be made. And the ‘answer’ to that will differ in every situation. It’s not simple. We can’t make it simple. And that’s why someone in a fancy suit hundreds of miles away who knows nothing of the specifics of the situation can’t be the one that makes those choices. The people directly affected by the outcome of the situation are the only people fit to make those choices.

Does being understanding and loving actually work? I feel like I've put in an epic effort for decades to be as decent as I can to people. I've bent over backwards to be understanding. I've worked hard to hug rather than kick when someone is down. ...did any of that help anything? If someone doesn't want to see you, if their ideology won't let them respect you, then they will just never be good to you. It doesn't matter how loving you are. You can't make someone care.

How exhausting it is to constantly have to check and test to see if those who are trying to get close to you have any respect for your basic human rights. That has been the case for me in the past ~4 years. So, so many in the Bitcoin/Crypto community have gone down an ugly red pill path adopting an ideology which tells them that women are not appropriate to full autonomy. And these people will attempt to pull you in to their ideology. They will court you and use lovely sounding words and phrases, and once your guard is down they will try to convince you that you are a follower, inappropriate to decision making, a second class human, support staff only. It’s so exhausting, and pathetic. They hide their ideology as they lack the courage to be honest about their convictions. They know that they will be rejected outright if they don’t hide behind flowery words and drip feed their disrespect. What sucks most about this is that now it’s a logistically horrible idea to let anyone in at all until they have thoroughly proven their respect for my basic human rights. So tiring. And it doesn’t feel like that should be the case, that I should have to performs checks to see if someone supports my basic autonomy. What bull shit.