Humans are a social species. We are pretty much always caught in one form of groupthink/mass psychosis or another. ...Always. You can’t escape it, it’s how we are wired. The best option is to be very aware of it. So tell me, which groupthinks are you currently caught in?

Parasympathetic activation is a key component of sexual arousal. Translation: feeling safe and respected by your partner is a huge turn on... at the neurobiology level! As always, humans are very complex, there is nuance and there are exceptions, but please, please don't listen to the duchebag podcasters that tell you that being frightening is a turn on. It's not a turn on, it's rapey.

So someone on Facebook was, I think, trying to troll me, but actually made a very fun image! 🫶

🫶 Science

Someone called me "subversive" the other day... as an insult. Like they thought that would bother me. Weird.

Always amuses me when some bro tries to convince me that it's his rightful place to "lead" me. Like dude, could you at least start with being smarter than me? That might make your argument a bit more convincing.

When I decided to cut my ridiculously long hair the thought crossed my mind that I should shave the side of my head and get a tattoo. And then I thought "nah, I can't do that" But then I was like, well of course I could just to do that! Why not? And so I did. Free will is fun!

O I love Puerto Rico! Look at all the sunshine. It's like this pretty much everyday 😍

Americans tend to have a sort of anti accountability fantasy. They want to be so ‘above’ everyone else that they are accountable to no one. But this is an adolescent fantasy, once you live a bit you realize how out of line with reality it is. An employee is accountable to their manager. The manager is accountable to the CEO. The CEO is accountable to the VC’s. The VC’s are accountable to their investors. Around and around it goes. You will never find a job, a title, that makes you accountable to no one. And even if you could, what a horrifically lonely life that would be.

FYI, having an IUD inserted is at least a 5x more difficult experience than getting the side of your head tattooed.

Marry someone with a good sense of humor. The vast majority of the time you spend with your spouse won’t be on luxurious Italian vacations, or sipping wine at a fancy restaurant. Most of your time together will be spent changing diapers, and debating who’s turn it is to switch the laundry, and adding milk to the shopping list, and filling out health insurance forms. And you definitely want to be doing all that with someone who can have a laugh about it.

You weren’t wrong, you just missed the 5! So one time, after a therapy appointment, I was pondering all the things that I have been "wrong" about in life, and I learned something very interesting. I don't think I've ever been wrong, but I have often been short sighted. I will see 2 & 2 and say that the answer to this dilemma is 4. Which is absolutely correct, 2 + 2 = 4!!! I am right. But after years of others insisting that the answer is 9, I finally one day stumbled onto a 5 in the equation. So of course 2 + 2 = 4, but I hadn't realized that there was also a 5 hiding in the corner. And when you add that in, then, yup, the answer is 9.  Do you see what I mean?

You just really gotta respect anyone who manages to live life on their own terms. And while Dolly Parton looked trashy, if you ever watched one of her interviews or heard about her prolific philanthropy, you’ll know that she was actually one of the classiest humans on the planet. And she looked great in some leather pants till the day she past. #goals