Heard an old song that reminded me of an old friend that reminded me of an old book she gave me years ago.
Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti.
“Men are like Waffles: Men tend to compartmentalize their lives into separate boxes (or waffle squares). They deal with one issue at a time. When they are in one square-such as work-they focus entirely on it and completely leave other squares behind.
Women are like Spaghetti: Women's thoughts and emotions flow together and intersect like interconnected noodles. Every life event, emotion, and thought is tied to everything else, meaning they frequently multitask and tie multiple issues together simultaneously.”
It is so true, so simple, and so useful to keep in mind. I definitely feel like my female framework is to experience life as an interconnected spiderweb. They use spaghetti, but it’s a similar idea. There is much less compartmentalization.
Women tend to process life through an interconnected network where memory, emotion, intuition, relationships, future planning, bodily signals, social dynamics, and environmental cues all inform each other simultaneously. What appears “unrelated” externally is often linked internally through invisible strings of pattern recognition and emotional context.
I also think about how Mother Nature, the ultimate mother, doesn’t build in straight lines, boxes, and right angles. She builds with feminine structure: round, curved, adaptive forms that distribute force across the network and become stronger and more abundant through connection.
The integrity of a spiderweb comes from each strand being interconnected and distributing load onto the others. It’s a safety structure. Resilient. Fewer single points of failure. Women tend to value this safety structure and weave emotion into everything to help synthesize past, present, and future with the goal of stability and protection, less points of failure.
The waffle has its own strengths as compartmentalization can create focus, calm under pressure, task execution, and temporary emotional insulation. Very necessary. The male system optimizes for forward (more linear) movement, directed concentration. The female optimizes for relational integration (circular, communal) containment. Different cognitive geometries.
Never finished the book, but a good cute concept😆
