When I first heard of Nostr back in 2022, my understanding of how how it worked largely came from my experience with Twitter and the Fediverse. Nostr was like the Fediverse, only you could take your identity with you. My understanding at the time, was that relays would function as mini social networks, and as long as two users shared the same relays they would be able to interact - an analogy would be (and that I will keep using): I post to Twitter, Mastodon, and Gab, you post to Twitter, Reddit, and Bluesky, because we both post to Twitter, we can see eachother. If Gab or Mastodon become hostile to me, I can just drop them for Minds and we keep on going, business as usual, because we both share Twitter as a common network. Because we both are posting to Twitter, we both are essentially agreeing that we want to see comments and content that comes from Twitter. We are agreeing to Twitters rules.
I keep hearing about the outbox model, the future of Nostr, and I sorta get it, but not really. As I understand it, we can slim down the number of networks (relays) that we post to, because the client is going to do the work to dish up the content. We no longer need to share common relays. So in the example above, I can just post to Gab and the other person can just post to Bluesky and we can go on our merry way with no common connections.
I'm now learning though, after seeing wave upon wave of dicks entering assholes this weekend, that the outbox model dishes up the comments as well. So in the example above, if a Bluesky user wants to see my posts, whether they like it or not, they're getting my posts plus the comments from my vocally pro-blue-eyed friends. Likewise, if I want to see their posts, I'm also seeing comments from people who really like animal costumes.
This is not how I understood Nostr was going to work. It may be more efficient, reduce centralization, and lead to more connections, but takes away control of the content thats dished up. I may want to see what you have to say, but I don't necessarily want to see everything from some of the circles you run in - if I did, I'd join your furry network. The idea, that its the users responsibility to protect their followers by only posting to high quality networks seems fucking dumb to me, and I don't know how that will ever scale. When has expecting personal responsibility from a normie ever worked?
What am I missing here?
I don't really understand how stuff works with the Mostr bridge. I get it in theory, but I don't understand why some accounts instantly come across the bridge fine, others have posts appear days later, and some don't show up at all (even if others on their instance do show up).
"Dad, WHAT are you listening to?!"
"Got a little 90's Metallica going on, why?"
"It's not good, and I don't like it."
" Yeah, so does the entire internet, get in line."
In any conflict, in any part of the world, regardless of who the aggressor is, we are always left with the frustrating question of why can't we send Lindsey Graham to the front lines.