People don’t struggle to build the life they want, they struggle to not be arrogant. They think results will come with a bit of occasional hard work. They think relationships will thrive with a bit of occasional thoughtfulness. They think most talent is innate and daily training is optional. They think they could get much richer anytime because they’ve had a few winning trades over the years. They think they deserve to be married to a wonderful person and have a loving circle of family and friends without ever having to question their own behavior. They think the world owes them something because they exist and are henceforth special. Most of what people call “luck” is actually applied humility: people who genuinely believe they still have a long way to go regardless of where they currently are, people who never blame others and always strive to get better, people who understand that beliefs shape actions, and actions define destiny. #orangebook #Humility #Mindset #Growth

The people who resent you the most aren’t those you simply ignored, it’s the people you once helped, but somehow, they felt entitled to more, and as things weren’t working out for them, they grew bitter, started to look for someone to blame, came up with an imaginary story, and started to genuinely believe that it was all your fault. #orangebook #Resentment #Entitlement #Blame

You don’t understand the value of jobs until you create them. You don’t understand how much your parents did for you until you become one. You don’t understand how much of an advantage it is to grow up wealthy until you have financial freedom. Gratitude comes from experience. #orangebook #Gratitude #Experience #Perspective

People who spend most of their waking hours dealing with numbers teach themselves to judge everyone and everything through numbers, when the most important things in life are clearly not measured quantitatively. #orangebook #Numbers #Values #Life

Don’t take it personally when life gets hard and painful, consider it an opportunity to grow the kind of mental strength that will become your most valuable asset for the rest of your life. #orangebook #MentalStrength #PersonalGrowth #LifeChallenges

Life is fair in the sense that as you get older, you look more and more like your lifestyle, you sound more and more like your relationships, and you are more and more like the quality of your long-term decisions. #orangebook #Lifestyle #Relationships #Decisions

As an adult, your potential is exactly what you have achieved, nothing less, nothing more. So many people still haven't unlearned the mindset of "I could have done better if I had studied harder." In real life, no one cares about your external circumstances, your private life, or that the games you chose to play are unfair. You find a way to get results and you move forward, or you don't and you stay where you are. Life goes by awfully fast for people who don't nurture the mental strength to take the pain and question themselves when they stagnate. #orangebook #PersonalGrowth #Accountability #Mindset

People who can genuinely compliment others are very rare because it requires true self-confidence; whilst people who can criticize everything are omnipresent because when you are still insecure, that's the default behavior that makes you feel better about yourself. #orangebook #SelfConfidence #Criticism #Insecurity

Ironically, there is nothing more expensive than being poor. You likely had an unhealthy lifestyle that you never noticed because everyone around you had the same. You were stuck in a job that didn't allow you to become who you wanted to be, but you had so many urgent fires to put out, you had no way out. You wasted so much time and energy commuting every day because living hours away from your workplace was all you could afford. Any signs of ambition got shot down by your fellow "crabs in the bucket" who projected their insecurities on you, and who didn't want you to leave them behind. You've been learning the price of so many things, but you now have to learn the value of the things that matter. You had to unlearn all the lies and wrong beliefs that you were fed in a society where average people (with a bit of money) are always confidently wrong. Especially, you once genuinely believed that the game was fair and that "hard work" alone would get you rewarded. You had to relearn how to not live in the constant fear of being taken advantage of, and how to play games that make you thrive as a person, and not just survive. Especially, you had to rebuild your self-esteem, and understand that you can achieve way more than you think, but only if you have the courage to follow an independent path. And finally, you had to cultivate the mental strength to accept the painful fact that you had a very late start, but it doesn't matter, because you can start climbing today, and you will look back in many years with true confidence and a bit of pride, to the sight of everything you had to overcome to build the life you wanted. #orangebook #Poverty #Mindset #Resilience

Face the reality head-on, there is no other path. If it’s scary, grow some courage. If it’s painful, grow some mental strength. If it’s hard, grow some patience. If it’s confusing, grow some clarity. Life will always be challenging, you just need to have faith in your own growth. #orangebook #GrowthMindset #Resilience #SelfImprovement

You are not a "good person" just because you lower your standards to accommodate the feelings of people who forgot what self-respect feels like. #orangebook #SelfRespect #Boundaries #PersonalGrowth

Relationships are actually quite simple when you have your physical and mental health in order, are financially responsible, have a clear idea of how you want to live your life, and respect yourself sufficiently to hang out with people who have the same standards for themselves. #orangebook #Relationships #Self-care #PersonalGrowth

If you marry someone who will set up the right example for your kids and who has the intelligence to understand that the success of a marriage is mostly about mutual trust, thoughtful teamwork, and clear communication toward a common vision, you've already won the lottery. #orangebook #Marriage #Family #Communication

The biggest problem with social media is likely that there is little to no incentive for people who are already wealthy, loved, happy, to maintain their online presence. #orangebook #SocialMedia #Incentive #Wealthy

Worrying about all the things that can go wrong is a common symptom of too much free time. #orangebook #Worry #FreeTime #Mindset

The only right answer to someone trying to "test" your friendship with them is to end it. Real friends don't play mind games. #orangebook #Friendship #MindGames #Trust

It's easy to marry, it's hard to marry well. It's easy to invest, it's hard to be free. It's easy to meet people, it's hard to have real friends. It's easy to read books, it's hard to have original thoughts. It's easy to make money, it's hard to have a real impact. #orangebook #Marriage #Friendship #Impact

I was once a big advocate of "helping people when no one else believes in them," but experience taught me that the kind of people who get back on track and take responsibility for where they are in life after getting some unexpected help once are extremely rare; in most cases, when people start believing that they are special, and that someone will help them no matter what, and they double down on their irresponsible decisions, and as time passes, you realize that you haven't been helping them at all, quite the opposite. I still hope to look back many years from now, realize that my help was actually a catalyst for greater positive change, and be proven wrong. #orangebook #HelpingOthers #PersonalGrowth #Responsibility

Talent comes from desire to get better, and desire to get better comes from pain for not being enough. #orangebook #Talent #Growth #Motivation

A lot of people are setting low expectations for themselves because they can't handle the pressure, but life becomes so much more fun once you decide instead to grow more mental strength and "talent," by investing in yourself until you can fearlessly tackle the challenging problems that the confident version of yourself would choose to tackle without hesitation. #orangebook #MentalStrength #SelfInvestment #ChallengeYourself