and you call farming for attention and engagement "connection"? I call it being unable to sit still with oneself. trying to fill an inner void with something external (attention/validation, for example, but also, simply stimulation (the farming part) because many people can't be alone with themselves without driving themselves crazy). it does not work, will never work, and can not work. connection, yes. but if you're needy it's not because there aren't others around, it's because you're disconnected from the one presence that actually matters.