Get a VPS with anon payments from @npub1y69e...wae6 with a dedicated IP and install headscale or Tailscale and make the VPS the exit. or there is Hydraveil by @npub14slk...t5d6 stupid simple approach. But then you need scrap / change your tech to Linux and degoogled phone by using @npub1235t...0ht5 on a Pixel. You can store your photos on a home umbrel server (old computer) with Immich. Simplex for private messages. Syncthing for syncing files between devices. Proton for email. Nostr for social media, Invidious for youtube or freetube I'm sure many people on here will have other alternatives to google or Apple apps that will require age verification. I mean its a bit of a rabbit hole but once you get there.. they is the new normal and there is no looking back.. Anyone reading this, if you have other suggestions please share.

Tutamail > proton.

bitwarden markor on mobile (with syncthing) self-hosted baikal calendar with etar on mobile ollama + openwebui if you have a machine that can run decent open models miniflux rss linkwarden self-hosted ntfy.sh or nstrfy (search my github) photoprism + photosync homeassistant self-hosted plex gitea obsidian or logseq (also w/ syncthing or git) ....that's a pretty fleshed out digital life suite with no megacorp or state dependencies. mail is the only pain point, with self-hosted being viable if you don't mind some deliverability issues to bullshit provider recipients

Use encryption people. Self hosting without encryption is worse than Tuta or proton drive. It will get worse in this world, so prepare for it sooner than later. For places like the fucked up UK shithole, use plausible deniability, for example hidden volumes in veracrypt. And be careful with crypto wallets when entering the UK - always use plausible deniabilty or a wallet which has it built-in

For those who want to push the limits I suggest (as a Sugestor 🙉) using an asymmetric encryption with PQC for storage and backups. Use "duplicity" (not duplicati) for that. Check out a fancy asymm. encrypted camera app called Cryptocam (f-froid available, open source), which doesn't store encryption keys on a device. If there is no key on a device, there is no possibility to leak or extort it. You may even ask a friend to keep the key for you, and never actually be in the possesion of that key.