the irony is that "opsec" is deeply embedded in the "cypherpunk" culture of nostr and selfies and showing your real life are done at a cost you make a lot of noise about when you do it. people don't realise that modern norms about social media amount to a kind of public confession ritual and if you want to look into why that's a problem a whole world will open up before your eyes. nostr is not shaped by an algorithm in the same way as most single private company social media are. it's not funded by advertising driven by the gathering of all that self-confession information and nobody, almost nobody, at least, is getting paid to put anything on nostr. confusing nostr for siloed, monetised social media data gathering and public opinion shaping is the problem here. this isn't "social media" this is a bunch of people who want to talk to real people instead of a machine-sculpted sugar coated version of reality. i don't know if there is any gender differentiators involved in this but the same gender imbalance exists in engineering, manual labor, military and security. it is probably true that it's more dangerous to be a woman on nostr because you aren't being chaperoned by The Algorithm.