it won't be that way forever... something i want to do with my relay is have it actually propagate delete events when it receives them so everyone who might actually do it can find out it is requested

This sounds very useful, i also imagine part of the problem is just getting the delete event distributed. For now I used a blaster relay but they also only send to the X biggest relays. Would be cool if clients would rebroadcast important events like delete too.

yeah, i think it would be really cool if clients would also send out all of a thread you reply to to all of the configured relays so everything stays in context