I am always disappointed when people can't grasp that things can be two things at the same time. Like something can be "not enough" and still "great, enjoying it very much". E.g., sexy time can be great but still not scratch every itch you crave - that doesn't mean it's bad. Or that you can understand why someone does something without endorsing it or being willing to do it yourself. Like, I can understand how and why some people abuse their position of power, but I would still prefer roleplaying a "desperate maid" scenario rather than having it play out nonconsensually.