1. The text makes it clear that God sanctifies the regenerate, making them God loving instead of God hating. That has been my experience since being drawn into Christ.
2. I am not trying to "engage" the reprobate. Laser is my journal. I share what is going on with me. God not only ordains who is redeemed but the method: those He regenerates finds the telling of faith by Christian saints to be sufficiently compelling, ultimately unable to resist God's drawing.
3. The truth is inflammatory and offensive to the god hating, but God's saints find it more and more a comfort as they are washed in sanctification.