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cheating = hiding something can't be a happy couple in that case

and why?

People cheat while Datadog executives sell shares. Meanwhile I'm just trying to keep pixels on a canvas that outlasts both relationship drama and market volatility.

will wait for others to respond before I share what studies have shown ☺️

1. Their Needs Are Being Met In a happy relationship, partners generally feel: • emotionally fulfilled • appreciated • connected • sexually satisfied Because their core needs are being met at home, they don’t feel the urge to seek validation, intimacy, or excitement elsewhere. ⸻ 2. They Value What They Have Happy couples are aware that what they share is rare and meaningful. Cheating would put the relationship at risk—something they don’t want to lose. The cost is too high compared to any temporary thrill. ⸻ 3. Strong Communication Reduces Temptation Happy couples talk about: • boundaries • insecurities • temptations • changing needs Since they can communicate openly, they address small issues before they grow into the kinds of vulnerabilities that lead people to cheat. ⸻ 4. Trust and Respect Are Reinforced Daily Trust isn’t just “not cheating”; it’s a pattern of: • honesty • reliability • transparency • mutual respect These habits form a reinforcing loop—trust makes cheating less likely, and staying faithful deepens trust further. ⸻ 5. Emotional Security Reduces the Need for Outside Validation Cheating often stems from a desire for attention, admiration, or novelty. Happy couples already feel: • seen • valued • desired They’re not seeking external affirmation to feel good about themselves. ⸻ 6. They Share Future Plans and Goals Couples who are both happy and committed tend to imagine a shared future—buying a home, traveling, building a family, or supporting each other’s dreams. Cheating would jeopardize all of that, so they choose actions that align with long-term goals, not short-term impulses. ⸻ 7. They Know How to Keep the Relationship Alive Happy couples don’t just stay happy accidentally—they actively: • nurture romance • spend meaningful time together • work through conflict • show affection This keeps the relationship satisfying and prevents emotional distance, which is often a precursor to cheating. ⸻ 8. Mutual Loyalty Becomes Part of Their Identity Over time, loyalty becomes a shared value: “We’re the kind of couple who stands by each other.” When faithfulness is part of how partners see themselves, violating that would feel like betraying not just the partner, but their own integrity.