Except they don’t have the choice even if damus pretends to do it. The client has no authority over whether the relay deletes it or not. The best damus could do is hide it in the interface. Its a farce.

And users always have a choice on nostr. They could use a different client that sends the delete command. Ultimately they have to hope the relays honor the command.

That's the most beautiful part about Nostr, it doesn't have to be uniform, and we can respect each other's decisions while also having a personalized experience.