Random Wednesday thought:
I've never been able to form deep friendships with dudes. Always the peripheral friend, but "bro-less" my entire life.
Weirdly enough, I never had a problem with female companionship--romantic or platonic. I'm even married to my best friend, which is incredible.
Such a strange position to be in.
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I think I just admitted to women being less complex to me than men, which is kinda fucking insane.
I need to go for a walk now. π
You've shared a lot of your personal stories publicly most of which describe lonely toil earlier in life. Have you tried toiling with a dude? Toiling in tandem is a great way to build broship.
Toil or hobby.
Toil as a hobby works too, e.g., camping.
Ah, the ol' toil in the soil.
You get it.
I lacked a lot of that in my youth, and it's hard to just pick that up as an adult. My dad spent most of his time working at his restaurant, and the time I spent with him when I was younger was through working there (started at 11).
I mostly grew up around Greek women, so the traditional female gender roles are what I'm more comfortable with. Explains why I enjoy cooking, cleaning, and even spending a lot of time with my daughters when they were babies.
I would have happily been a stay at home dad, but I worked second shift so I could be with them most of the day.
It's not too late.
Enjoy ... cleaning?!
Dude have you never cleaned a room from top to bottom and stood back and said, fuck ya?
No. Never. To be fair, can't remember a time where I cleaned a whole room
much recommend.
Purpose-driven toil? Like a startup.
I also feel like I just missed out on some mythical innovation broship where my mind could have sparked a 1000 startups. Maybe Iβll find my peers by creating them as agents and vibe prompting. Or maybe here on nostr? But who has the gall to go to nostr meetups knowing how central planners infiltrate smart people networks β¦ ah wellβlonely is as lonely does.
Well, actually have a small renovation thing coming up soon. Will take this into consideration, and hopefully remove some dread at least
Spend the time to clean your vacuum filters too, it makes a difference.
It sure what those are, but will look into it. Wisdom from βοΈ
YES
#YESTR
You are missing out. A healthy group of life long bros is essential for every man . It does take a certain degree of deep bonding experiences to get there , which are harder to come by as you get holder
I realize that. It's not necessarily a position I want to be in, but it is what it is.
You grow up with sisters or a dad that was submissive to your mom?
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