Why? What is the difference when taking care for your family?

I have to disagree with you on that. As a kid I had a stay-at-home Mom, or stay-at-home Dad, or both working shorter hours taking turns mornings vs afternoons together with both sets of grandparents helping bbsit me, there was no inherent bonus of my Mom vs any other combo being home full time. My daughter's family is doing the same. The spouse with the "best" job opportunity (wages, benefits and ease of days off for kids/ doctors/ school stuff) is the one that works. They've had stints with each at home as well. Mom at home was awesome, but Dad and GParents were too and each had their special things I did with them. And, even when my Mom or Dad were at home, I always wanted Grparents for when I was sick. Nanny's coming and watching Julie Andrew's movies with my Grandpa when I was sick- was, is, & always will be, the Best! medicine! 🥰 Aparently my hubby is the only one my Granddaughter wants when she's sick too. Must be a Papa thing lol!

@Laeserin I apologize I wrote a book (oops). I'm not triggered with a rant post lol!. I just have so many memories that I would have missed out with if it had just been my Mom home my whole childhood and not times with both or Dad.