Ditto uses strfry

No, that is the mostr.pub relay Ditto uses sqlite or postgres

No it isn't. LMDB is so lightweight and fast that I don't need async function calls. I can just assume they return virtually instantly.

i have run almost every piece of relay software on the busiest nostr relay, from sqlite to postgres to lmdb, have you? Or do you just like talking out of your ass to sound like you know what you’re talking about.

Why you getting so defensive? You are wrong . I proved you wrong with an actual tangible thing called ditto.