Depends on whether or not your client has outbox support or not. If I remember correctly, I'm pretty sure you're an iPhone user (could be hallucinating things), which probably means you're on Damus. And I'm not sure if that has implemented outbox yet. (I'm really out of the loop on lots of client development.) Vitor wrote this for Amethyst And it's a good primer on relays. View article → If your client doesn't use the outbox model, I would describe it as vibe-relaying otherwise. 🤣 Just go what feels right. Maybe have a couple of public relays and then a couple of private relays. Just realize that if you overload your relay list, you're using a lot more data and it can sometimes cause client slowdowns.