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Troy 1 month ago
My mom was brought up being told, "Don't hug a crying baby, because you're just teaching them to cry more." So, I was crying in my crib, and my mom resisting all motherly urges, was letting me be. My dad walked in, asked my mom why she wasn't doing anything, and picked me up. I immediately stopped crying and my mom says she then realized that I just wanted to be loved, and disregarded that bad advice. YMMV
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NOSTR Dads I’m going to share a thing. My son is a real tornado. He’s mostly sweet but he’s probably the hardest-headed kid I’ve never met. He never relents once he’s decided what up. I’ve tried all kinds of things to calm him down, somethings sometimes work for me others for his mother. In any case, he was up late last night because we had a family function so he got very cranky and I tried to get him to go down and instead he Chun-Li bicycle kicked me from his crib into my face for about ten minutes and Honda hundred hand-slap parried his feet for as long as I could just trying to softly ask him why he was doing this kicking. I was impressed with my patience. In any case, I just started to pray over him, asking Jesus for help that really pissed him off which was interesting in its own right. Then I just stopped and asked him if he needed a hug and he immediately calmed down stood up and squeezed me like his life depended on it. And I held him there for a while and then he laid down and I sung him to sleep with my hand on his chest. I don’t know whether this is replicable, but I think I’ll never forget this moment in fatherhood. @cuban @npub1dtf7...hgu0 @node @npub134u0...qjkm #nostrdads #nostrdads #dadstr
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Kat 1 month ago
Every time I took someone else's advice and ignored my maternal instinct, it never went well. Now I just do what comes naturally. And maybe it helps that my son is an angel 😇❤️
My mom has been told the same. I cried for 1 year all night in the kitchen, where they couldn't hear me in their bedroom. This would be the way to learn your child to become independent, she has been told. Germany in the 70s...
Loves these stories. Humans have emotional needs. As adults, we repress them. Children cannot. But they also the skills to communicate those needs. Good for both of you to realize that.