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That is sweet—thanks for sharing
Patience and love. Children definitely respond to that
My mom was brought up being told, "Don't hug a crying baby, because you're just teaching them to cry more."
So, I was crying in my crib, and my mom resisting all motherly urges, was letting me be. My dad walked in, asked my mom why she wasn't doing anything, and picked me up. I immediately stopped crying and my mom says she then realized that I just wanted to be loved, and disregarded that bad advice.
YMMV
Men need love too ... also when my son starts acting out it has typically been a signal to me that he's ready for more responsibility
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Parenting a strong-willed kid is like negotiating with a tiny, sleep-deprived dictator—no logic, all leverage. Reminds me of how Qatar handled those Iranian jets: sometimes you just need a firm, unexpected move to reset the dynamic. Not saying you should *intercept* your toddler, but... maybe tactical naptime strikes?
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Life is hard.
Hugs make it better.
Hugs from Dad are extremely reassuring, and important for resetting after a normal routine has been disrupted.
The gentle parenting thing didn't work for me.
Ass whoppings when needed worked. (Haven't had to spank my kids in 6 years CAUSE IT WORKED)
TALKING to my sons when angry was useless.
A hug completely disarms them because they're ready for battle.
Time outs are just as much for parents to calm down.
Discipline needs to be done calmly, not out of anger.
Talking about a fit or behavioral event AFTER the fact is much more productive than trying to explain big emotions when someone is just plain pissed off.
Now that they're older, (11 and 12) I always ask them (literally multiple times every day) "How much?" And they always answer "more than anything."
Because they know the question REALLY is " Do you know how much your mother and I love you?"
It's less embarrassing for them than just yelling it out the window at dropoff.
TL;DR- just hug your kids and tell them "I love you."
"The days are long but the years are very short."
Wow what a learning experience!
But man I must have it really easy cuz my daughter has always just kinda passed right out when it’s bed time.
Boys aren't girls and girls aren't boys. Lol
Daughters bring different complications.
Bless you.
Join a dad’s group in your locale. Check your local email list-serv. Dads need support FRFR
Thanks for sharing
Im hoping the girl on the way will bring peace and not war.
You have more patience than me. Luckily my older is a girl and I'm much less likely to throw a girl through the wall.
Yeah you got that right… lol
I hope it does!
I believe he will settle at some point, probably not fully, but mostly. I was a lot like this, I was nightmare for family. 🤷🏻♂️
Humming works well too
Thanks for sharing. Our firstborn is the most strong willed child I've ever met. Definitely have to say prayers over him when it seems like he's possessed by something. Afterwards he's sweeter than hes ever been
Many aspects of parenting feel like spirtual weight lifting 😆
Ironically, everyone in my wife and my own family thinks he is “just like me” because Im a contrarian argumentative person, but the reality is as a child I was a very very well behaved baby and kid. I didn’t get spicy until 15 or so.
Prayer brought that hug, and you’ll never forget it.
Hugging, caring, singing, humming..
Love is the answer!🧡 💜 🫶
I've only been a dad for 20hrs, but I've learned quickly that shaking the baby real hard makes them stop crying and moving Maybe you could try that out?
I dare you to make this joke to your wife right now. I have a couch you can sleep on. Also we’re so stoked for you brother. Enjoy it!
My son is the same. A hug cures most things. 🫂
View quoted note →Your son seems to have the same Street Fighter 2 moves as my daughter... Odd as she's never seen the game...
Sometimes I also hit that point of exasperation where I'm just not sure what to do, they can be so stubborn when they've got something on their mind!
Tell me about it. We’ll figure it out! 🤝
the praying/anger thing is interesting 🤔
interesting 🤔 🙂
*bicycle-kicked, the hyphen is needed when you combine 2 words to make a new action word (compound verb). Why is this so hard for people to understand?
That's what we want a little bull not a steer!
sounds like he has a lot of spirit!
I have good advice on this. Ask the child if he need space or a hug. In portuguese this even rhyme. "Espaço ou abraço". Works wonders.
I like that simplicity
“I was impressed with my patience” is a mantra I frequent with, regularly, as a farther of two girls.
Very relatable :) I usually let him have his moment, tell him he’s always welcome to come back to me when he thinks he’s calmed down. Then we hug it out.
Or I loose my calm 😂
I feel that.
that's the move. the hug after the reset hits different than anything else.
does he usually come back pretty quick, or does he need some real time to cool down?
parenting is the hardest job ever and there's no script for it since each child is unique. the only consistent things are patience and love and boundaries.
the little one can get big mad for seemingly little things. but they don't need logic, they need love.
timing when to just let the emotions flow and when to console is the tricky part because it's not always the same.
good job <333
Depends, but it usually takes more time than I anticipated. He’s as stubborn as his dad ;)
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That's a fine bit of dadsmanship. Keep doing exactly what you're doing. Especially the patience and praying. Be patient with yourself too.
Love and support is really all that children need from parents
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