The moment I almost broke my daughter's trust forever --- Yesterday I shared my first rollercoaster ride, but I had another story from Disney that was even more powerful. We all arrived home to our cabin at Center Parcs after an exhausting but exhilarating day. I was getting things ready for bed when I heard my youngest start to cry. I rushed into the living room to find Sylvia comforting Bo as Lima looked on, upset and starting to cry herself. My Unable/Able hamster wheel got triggered immediately. I angry-panic asked: "What's going on?!" Sylvia explained that Lima had thrown a sharp keyring holder at Bo which hit her on the forehead. This triggered my Right/Wrong wheel. I became 100% angry and raised my voice at Lima for doing something so "wrong." Lima burst out crying. Immediately upon seeing her like this, I caught myself and stepped into admin mode. I KNEW Lima would never intentionally hurt her sister. I went to soothe her, but she was also triggered (her Unable/Able wheel) and moved away from me, hiding behind the curtain. **This is exactly how wheel scripts get imprinted.** I asked Sylvia to go comfort Lima, which she was able to do. But when I approached, Lima pushed me away and told me: "Get away. I don't want you here." Those words cut deep. I went to bed but realised her words had triggered something profound in me. A deep sadness at being pushed away. Sitting on my bed, I watched my thoughts spin: *"I shouted at her and now she no longer loves me."* *"I've hurt her and now I'm unable to get close to her."* *"I've broken something in our relationship."* I watched the hurt spin and looked for the hamster wheel causing the most pain in me. I knew the situation "out there" had triggered some deep glitchy coding in myself. I also knew that if I reacted from that place, I would CREATE the very reality I feared most. Then I saw it: **Support/Let Down.** I felt I had let her down. Not supported her. And she was deeply disappointed in me. That disappointment wound cut straight to my core. I immediately picked up little Rob (the practice I teach in my book) and comforted him. That mechanism - understanding the glitch in my code - made the wheel dissolve. Peace washed over me. Without thinking, I stood and went back into the living room. I hugged my wife, then Bo, then Lima - who was now calm and allowed me to hold her. If I hadn't done admin mode, I would have returned in anger. Because I was hurt, I would have angrily told Lima "you can't push me away like that." **That would have energised the exact script I was trying to avoid.** It would have created more disappointment and let down - a wave of destructive energy flowing through my family system, encoding the pattern deeper into all of us. Instead, I returned to my bed and slept peacefully with a deep knowing: I had stripped away another layer of conditioning that would inevitably bring me closer to my family. And that connection is the most valuable thing in my life. **Do this work. You will find that nothing is more important.** If you're ready to see which wheels are running your life - and learn how to step off them before they damage what matters most - my book "Glitch" maps all five patterns with surgical precision. **Read it here: https://www.glitchthebook.co** Rob P.S. Lima doesn't remember the incident this morning. But something shifted in our relationship. That's how this works - you don't fix the other person, you debug YOUR programming, and the relationship transforms naturally.