wooow, you've gotten to see many different types. that last one is really tragic. unfortunately, that's what's either pushed on or modeled for us. i remember when i was younger and dating my now Wife, i never would cry in front of Her. i don't think She saw me cry until after we were married—i didn't understand how that was way way worse... i tend to feel things deeply, and never shared that with Her. of course, i didn't go through all of what you described for the last one... what did you feel during that time that made his lack of emotion a red flag for you? thanks for sharing all of that, btw~! :3

For the last one I remember previously think the man was insanely strong and could handle anything; because he had helped me through some really hard times in my life and was always able to handle any situation it seemed. But as that year wore on what I realized was that he had been incredibly lucky in life and hadn't really hard to deal with hard times himself before. Perhaps he thought by not crying he was not showing emotions.... But he was. He developed really explosive anger about extremely small petty things. I tried my best to be there for him and his family, but because I would acknowledge the sadness and emotional difficulties he started accusing me of thinking he was weak. So if I tried to help I got explosive anger turned towards me, and if I didn't help his explosive anger would turn towards our pets, belongings, and even his nephew at one point. The end was very ugly and while I am proud of myself for trying to be there for him, I am glad it ended because it wouldn't have gotten any better. Ignoring reality and then getting violent about those who don't is not a way to demonstrate strength.